About 20% or so of gay guys aren't into anal to one degree or another ranging from 'I guess we can do it if you want to' to 'Hell will freeze before I do that!!'. As far as other things to do instead - there's a lot of options: Oral sex Mutual masturbation Masturbation in each other's presence even if you just touch yourselves Frottage (rubbing genitals together) Body contact - pressing your bodies together, and possibly rubbing them together - passionate hugging basically. Kissing Docking (assuming one or both partners are uncircumcised and have sufficient amounts of foreskin) - one partner puts his foreskin over the head of the other partner's penis and then they mutually masturbate, possibly to orgasm, while connected like this. Use of various sex toys (cock rings, fleshlights, prostate massagers, dildos, etc. etc.) BDSM to varying degrees if the parties involved are into that. Licking/tickling/playing with nipples and other sensitive body parts - toys or items like feathers or chocolate sauce can play a role in this if you want them to. Roleplaying Erotic massage Probably others, but that's just what came to mind first. Hope this helps, Todd
Nope, there is a lot of ways of having sex with another guy, oral, anal, BDSM, etc... Just like AKTodd said, there are so many ways of having sex, but the most important thing is to be comfortable and enjoy it, for both parts