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At what age did you accept your sexuality?

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  1. cakepiecookie

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    I was never really upset about being gay/bi, mostly just confused. It took me until I was about 21 to figure out basically what my sexuality was, but it took years more to find the right words for it.

    I've never been ashamed/unaccepting for my own sake, but sometimes I still feel a little uncomfortable about it purely because of how society reacts. Overall though, I'm good.
     
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    I stated questioning in the beginning of 9th (age 14) grade because I thought, "Hm, if I was a guy I could totally date a girl. Waaaaaait maybe I can do that now too... Oh crap."
    I had my first crush on a girl in the middle of 9th grade. Well not actually first girl crush, just first one I processed as a crush.

    I came out to myself in the following few weeks.

    Over a year later, I have a girlfriend and am very okay with my sexuality.
     
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    I realized it when I was 13 when I first started to discover sexualities. I came out to my sister when I was 16 when I was questioning, but last time I asked she doesn't remember it. She knows I'm gay and I can openly talk about it even if I feel anxious.

    I came out to my parents around 20, my accepted it but my dad was a bit disappointed he grew up in a Catholic household, but my parents grew me up in a secular household and always said I can whoever I wanted to be; being fully accepting of it. Still working on being more open about it to everyone.
     
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    13 in a dream and waking up in the morning
     
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    I was in denial for a little bit, but I started accepting myself as bi at 16, then realized I was gay around 18 and came out publically at 19.
     
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    I came out to myself, close friends, and people online as bisexual around 15 or 16. Started questioning my gender around 24. Realized I was a lesbian shortly before my 25th birthday. I do remember when I was ten or eleven asking my mother if it were possible that the doctors were wrong about me being a boy and if I had been born a girl.
     
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    Just realized I still got problems with accepting my romantic orientation. Asexuality is no problem, but this aesthetic-attractive-thing confuses me @.@
     
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    Questioned it when I was 15 and 16. Realized when I was 17, and accepted it then. I didn't want to tell people until I knew whether I was gay or bisexual, which is why I didn't come out until I was 17.
     
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    I think it'd be last year or so when I discovered I was pan and then a little later I found a term called polyamorous suited me as well that I don't mind having one romance at a time with anyone regardless of their gender.
     
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    16 was the big step for me, but I still have some minor issues relating to how I feel about it.
     
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    I distinctly remember that when I was 16 I was just brushing my teeth and thought as I looked in the mirror, that I was bisexual. I had known for months, but it was the first time it just occurred as normal thought, as if it wasn't such a big deal.

    I think that's when I really accepted it.
     
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    fully at 15, at 13 I started questioning if I was not straight, it's honestly so funny though because looking back, it was painfully obvious that I'm not completely straight.
     
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    15, I had sorta known I was homosexual for a while, but one day I just decided to share it with my mother, she was really supportive and that helped to fully accept it myself.
     
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    Started questioning at 12, accepted myself at 15 :slight_smile:
     
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    I accepted it when I was 15...or was it 16...I don't know, one of those two, but I came out of my parents on January 28, 2017.
    I'll never forget that day.
     
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    I think I knew since I was 16 or so but didn't admit it to myself till about a year ago or so. 20 ish
     
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    Hard to say exactly when :dry: I had suspicions around 17 but didn't fully accept it until I was about 20
     
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    Started questioning myself in high school. reacted on my feelings in college. Went back into the closet after college. Got married had kids like we were supposed to do for our generation. Got divorced, started going to gay bars and just started finally coming out. So yes it can be a long journey but a satisfying one when your family and friends accept you for being gay.
     
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    13 :3 I started questioning at 11
     
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