Help with "Am I trans or genderqueer or androgynous?"

Hello! I relate very heavily to this. I used to think I was a demigirl but as puberty hit full force and my dysphoria worsened I started to identify as genderfluid. This lasted for a little over half a year, and then I realized I felt male almost all of the time. I now identify as a trans demiboy, because I suffer from dysphoria and feel almost 100% male. It was hard for me to realize this because I love makeup and sometimes do want to wear dresses and heels. You really have to look past things like clothing and look into yourself and how you really feel. I am a boy, but I still love makeup and traditionally feminine things. Clothing doesn't have a gender! It was only after I looked past gender roles that I saw that I was a boy.

 

I am also a transmasculine person who enjoys wearing dresses and makeup on occasion. Like timelord, I also thought I was genderfluid for a while until I realized that I felt like a boy pretty much all of the time. I think a good question to ask yourself (one that helped me) is how you see yourself in the future. When I thought about this, I realized that I always imagine myself living as a man when I think about where I want my life to go.

The main thing is to be yourself, whatever label you end up choosing. (If you choose one at all, you don't have to if you don't want to.) If you feel like wearing mens clothes and presenting yourself as male, do it. If you feel like wearing a sparkly dress, do that. You'll look fabulous either way.

 

I feel exactly like the other two here described. I was feminine as a child and at first, I thought I was a "butch lesbian". Then, I identified as genderqueer for about half a year, and realised that wasn't "enough" and that male suit me. I'm just a feminine male.

I think that one of the things I have noticed causes this is because I'm trans. Think about it - if a cis male wears makeup, is feminine, etc., we all cheer him on and talk about how great it is that they are expressing themselves and breaking gender norms. But then when you're a transgender male, it's almost as if being feminine contradicts it, so you feel less valid and less trans. I think I have to get into the mindset that if cis men can occasionally (or all the time) be feminine, so can trans men. I hope I made some sense and helped :lol:

 

That could just be described as "genderfluidity". Androgyny just means your gender is ambiguous based on how you look. You could be a cisgendered person who just dresses however they want.

 

I can definitely relate, i've recently realized I feel no or very little connection to being female (I'm AFAB), but I also don't know what it means to most Cis females to "feel" female. I really struggle with this abstract concept. I relate to wanting to wear more masculine clothing and presenting more masculinely, but at the same time I don't "feel male" at all. I sometimes think that non-binary or agender are the best terms to describe me, but then at times I will get a strong urge towards one of the binary genders (usually more of a pull towards male lately). I agree with what the others have said about gender roles (what you wear) vs. gender identity (what you feel), but have no clue how to know for myself or help you distinguish between these two. i don't know if this helps, but you definitely aren't the only one going through this.