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Would you give up parts of your character to get rid of dysphoria?

Discussion in 'Gender Identity and Expression' started by i am just me, Jan 18, 2017.

  1. i am just me

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    I am in a very masculine state of my gender at the moment and feel extremly uncomfortable with my body. Whenever this happens, I wonder if I would exchange my life for the one me born with a male body would be leading. Or even for the life me as a cis person of my assigned gender would have.

    On the one hand I would have felt much more comfortable during puberty. I would also be more comfortable in phases like the one I am in at the moment. Life would just be easier.

    But: My personality was also shaped by me fighting against gender norms and acting closer to what is associated with men than with women. I guess I would have made very different experiences if I were born male. As I am quite proud of my personal development in the last few years, I don't know if I would like to exchange it for having no dysphoria.

    Anyway, I would love to hear your thoughts on this topic. I am not binary trans, so I can only imagine what it must be like to feel trapped in the wrong body all the time. If having a body your comfortable in would mean giving up parts of your character, would you do it?
     
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    No.
    I would never change the person that I am (soul wise) to rid myself of dysphoria. But I will change my body to rid myself of dysphoria and to have the soul better fit the body.
     
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    Yes. I absolutely would. I would hope that as a bisexual man I would have found out about trans people so I could fight for them as an ally. But aside from my caring about LGBT+ issues, everything else about me would likely be similar, minus the added discomfort. I would trade it in a heartbeat.

    [having said that, I'm partly glad things went this way because my fiance is much more attracted to women which is how we began dating. He understands who I am now, but it might have been harder to help a straight man see his gay side if I'd been born male]
     
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    I would 100% guaranteed. I would have loved a happier childhood and be comfortable in myself. Dating would be a hell of a lot easier, people wouldn't hate me for being me (unless they were homophobic). God I could imagine me as a cis guy and it just makes me feel more shit to know that I don't have those parts. Yes I'd be a different person having grown up in a completely different life but I'd be willing to make those sacrifices. I don't think much of myself anyway so I doubt anyone would miss anything about me as I am now.
     
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    No. I'd rather deal with my dysphoria (which hasn't been too bad these days) than give up part of who I am as a whole.
     
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    Me being trans has brought me a great deal of suffering that will leave scars that last a lifetime. This entire ordeal has been hard and arduous and it's not over yet. Yeah, I'd rather I was born cisgendered--I don't care which one.
     
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    No, I really don't think so. There are things I would change if I could - I'd like a little more height, and sharper features, and I'd like to have already managed top surgery and hormones - but I wouldn't change being trans all together. It's too big a part of who I am, and it isn't a shameful thing.

    Anyway, I can't see myself ever really being cis, even if I was born male. I'm too queer for that.

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    No, I really don't think so. There are things I would change if I could - I'd like a little more height, and sharper features, and I'd like to have already managed top surgery and hormones - but I wouldn't change being trans all together. It's too big a part of who I am, and it isn't a shameful thing.

    Anyway, I can't see myself ever really being cis, even if I was born male. I'm too queer for that.
     
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    As appealing as it sounds, I don't think I would do it. I'm sort of proud of the person I've become and I know that I wouldn't be the same had I grown up cis.
     
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    I don't know. I'm so used to how the way I am relates to the life I've lived. But I do think this is one of the worse conditions you can be born with. It hurts on the soul level. So I'm tempted to say yes. But if I really had to I'd probably say no. It's too many unknowns.

    Probably even if I just had a decisively male body I would have just tried to accept it and live as cis.
     
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    I would. I may have answered differently if I were physically able to transition, but as it is I can't. So any way to permanently rid dysphoria would be good enough for me.
     
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    This. I like who I am and others do, too. While dysphoria definitely sucks, I think it would be too high a price to pay for losing part of my identity.
     
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    It depends on whether these traits were necessary to what I'd like to do with my life. If not, yes. If so, no. I transitioned because dysphoria was in my way.
     
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    But I wouldn't be me, so no.