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Could you be with a "strict top"?

Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by caliwoman, Dec 29, 2016.

  1. caliwoman

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    Just curious if that would interest fellow bi and gay women out there.

    Personally, being with a strict top would kinda get boring right away because not being able to touch them takes away half of the intimacy for me.

    What sayeth you?
     
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    Out of pure curiosity, what does that mean in female terms? I know what it means for guys obviously, but I wasn't aware there were "roles" like that in female relationships.
     
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    My answer would probably be no regardless of how you define top.

    If we go by the gay male definition (top being the one who penetrates)....Hell no. I refuse to have any phallic object shoved in my crotch, although I will be a strict top for someone else.

    If it means I can't touch them at all, no. I prefer touching over being touched (but I'm not stone either).

    If it means they're strictly dominant, it depends. I kind of like being passive, but I won't do extreme BDSM stuff.
     
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    I do not like sex *cringe* I'm not asexual, but I'm glad my crush person that I have sorta a relationship with is asexual. No pressure to have sex. I'm just waiting for the right person.

    But I would not be the top, absolutely not.....
     
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    Probably not 'cause I can be quite the control-freak.
     
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    I am versatile and would need someone similar. There are times when I want to dominate and times I want to be dominated. As for "top" in terms of penetration, I'd have to think about it. It's not something that even remotely gets me off, so what would be the point except the partner's need to do so.

    ---------- Post added 30th Dec 2016 at 11:08 AM ----------

    Top
    1) the penetrator using accessories, or
    2) being the more dominate and the one who provides cunnilingus/oral sex

    Bottom
    1) the one who is submissive
    mostly doesn't do cunnilingus/oral sex

    Versatile
    Can do/be both top and bottom
     
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    Very much versatile here.

    Also switch in BDSM parlance.

    I do prefer making the other person have a good time though
     
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    I would probably need someone a bit versatile. There are days I don't want to have "her" touched in anyway even by myself. I think trans girls have a different set of needs though, generally. Pre-op dysphoria can dictate what we may want at times.
     
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    I don't think I could. I'm more of a sharing person so I doubt if I'd be attracted to one anyway.
     
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    probably not but there are total bottoms out there who prefer that for sure. If I'm with a TG and they prefer oral only or not have their lower organ as a part of sex I am fine with that and respect it.
     
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    I'm actually looking for one to train me in a bdsm capacity. The idea of being helpless while he (or she) has their way with me seems would have to be a turn on. I'd had bondage experiences before, but not to the extent I'd like. Perhaps I never will. Could be I'm hooked.