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Sending nudes: yes or no?

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  1. anthonybg

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    Do you think that sxting is a good idea? Should it be acceptable to send nude pictures?
     
    #1 anthonybg, Dec 8, 2016
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    Depends on the person and the situation. It's a bit inappropriate to send nudes to random people you find attractive, as you don't really know what their reaction would be. It's inappropriate to send them if one or both parties are underage. Otherwise, if you're talking to a significant other or FWB, it would be ok, provided they wanted to see those images.
     
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    I think it's better not to do it unless you truly don't care who sees them. Sexts seem to get around to more people than just the intended recipient.
    Not that I would know from personal experience. :lol:
     
    #3 Xochipilli, Dec 8, 2016
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    I heard something 30% of people share the nudes they receive. No idea if its true or not, but it's food for thought.
     
    #4 HM03, Dec 8, 2016
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    When I was young and dumb in high school, I had sexy pictures on my phone. Well one of my classmates grabbed my phone and saw them. He said he could get me in trouble. Luckily he didn't though.

    So... don't be dumb like I was... I felt very violated.

    Nowadays, I'm married and they work nights so obviously that's a bit more acceptable. :lol:
     
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    Does sexting necessarily mean sending nudes? I thought it didn't, honestly.

    As for your main question, I think sending nudes is not a very good idea (for reasons others have mentioned). =] However, I think sending sexually explicit messages is not a bad thing really (obviously, given that the person you send it to is okay with that :lol: ).
     
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    Well, if you really want to do it, make sure your face is not visible in ANY nude picture you send. You never know who's gonna see them, and you can't take them back.

    Otherwise, make sure the other party is ok with receiving them.
     
    #7 RainbowGreen, Dec 8, 2016
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    I never said I was going to send nudes.
     
    #8 anthonybg, Dec 8, 2016
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    I'm using the impersonal you.
     
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    RainbowGreen said if, right? :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes: I think he offered some good advice actually.
     
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    I take and recieve nude pictures with a very good friend. We both trust each other implicitly yet I still insist she see's me delete them from my phone. I do keep copies on a seperate and very well hidden folder on my computer but she knows this, looks at them with me (usually while we are drunk and giggly) and knows I would delete them on request or let her do it.

    I don't think I would do it with anyone else as I don't trust anyone as much as her.

    My point being, if you know and really trust that person or are not bothered who may see them then yes go for it and have fun. :icon_bigg
     
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    Here's my take:

    If you are certain you'd be ok with your nudes showing up on, say, a pic and video sharing site and spreading to dozens of sites for tens or hundreds of thousands of people to see (and, perhaps, pleasure themselves to) *and* you are over 18, then it's a choice you can make.

    The issue is,many people don't really think through the consequences, or they naively trust someone who says 'oh, I won't keep them' or 'oh, I'd never share them'. Additionally, many such pics show up up these dodgy sites were stolen through infected computers or compromised phones.

    If we think about it objectively, there is an argument to be made that there is nothing inherently wrong or dirty about sex, about exposing our bodies and genitals. Yet much of the world doesn't hold this view. So anyone making this decision needs to think carefully about not only the now but where this pics could show up 10 or 20 years from now.

    BTW, the same applies to Skype or other video chats. These can easily be recorded and there are hundreds of dodgy tube sites that display hundreds of thousands of such videos. If you, say, masturbate on a private webcam, no matter how well you know the other person, there is always the possibility your video will be captured and reposted on hese sorts of sites.

    So... Something to think about.
     
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    As long as you're being safe and smart with it and you're of or over the age of consent in whatever nation you live in, then I don't see why not. I mean, I'm personally not into it and don't see the point, but y'all do you.
     
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    I'll admit, it'll be hard to NOT send pics of my boobs once I get them....and maybe even full bodies after SRS. It just seems like, I worked so much and fought so hard for this body, why would I want to hide it? Why not show it off, especially to that someone special. I'll be careful, obviously, especially with putting my actual face in the photos, but I could see myself doing the "one finger challenge" or something like that....
     
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    God no.

    I would never, ever send or post nudes of myself anywhere. Other people can; that is their prerogative. But I will likely never be in an amorous relationship where that would even come up.

    The only acceptable situation which I myself could be found in a sensual angle, is if I worked very hard on my physical appearance and then enlisted a photographer for a photo shoot, but even then I wouldn't be fully nude. But whether I'd be up for modeling, I think, is not the point of this thread.
     
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    No, I'd never do that.
     
    #16 Cauldron, Dec 8, 2016
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    Its what I exactly thought of when I first read this :grin:

    Ok, my boyfriend and I do sexting a lot since we are far away from each other but we've never done sending each other nudes. I think its not bad, but to us we dont feel like its necessary for our sexting :grin:

    "Should it be acceptable to send nudes?"
    Why not? Just be sure the both parties are responsible enough to take care of the photos.
     
    #17 LakanLunti, Dec 8, 2016
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    No never, ever, ever. I do not want my body posted on media or shared. No exceptions.
     
    #18 Linkmaste, Dec 8, 2016
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    I don't really care if other people do it with one another. Cool beans.

    But I wouldn't want any sent to me, and I would never, ever take one myself. Then again I have no interest in sex or seeing naked bodies. So that might be part of my personal issue against it.
     
    #19 SabreBear, Dec 8, 2016
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    If you want to, yeah go ahead. I would never send any.
     
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