I'm in a very long distance relationship with a guy a few years older than me...and this morning he told me he's dying from cancer.. Im trying to talk to him and help him somehow but I don't know how. He only has a few weeks to live....I don't understand, why him, why so young???? I'm praying he'll be alright and all I can say to him his that I love him and that he is loved....I ddont know how to help him ...there's nothing I can do.. ---------- Post added 5th Dec 2016 at 03:57 PM ---------- I don't know why I'm writing this....just someone please help him.. ---------- Post added 5th Dec 2016 at 04:04 PM ---------- oh, wrong topic
Hey jaska, I'm sorry to hear about your friend.:icon_sad: Do you know for sure that his prognosis is terminal or has he only been diagnosed with cancer?
He was told he has a 3% chance to survive another month.... ---------- Post added 5th Dec 2016 at 04:43 PM ---------- so they discovered it too late..
I am really sorry about that. I don't know what to say, other than we are all here for you brother. Miracles can happen, and I sincerely hope your friend will survive.
Well, that's absolutely terrible, jaska!:icon_sad: I sat at the deathside bed of several relatives who passed away from cancer, but all were much older. The most you can do at this point is to be strong and be there for him. Talk to him if he wants to talk. Try to talk about the joys in his life. Maybe even talk about how much he positively influenced your life. And maybe even how much you will miss him, if you think he can handle it and if you can do so without breaking down. If you want to grieve, at this point, do it privately. I'm sure he'll appreciate knowing how much you care for him, but try NOT to let him end up trying to comfort you. Put on a brave face and try to be as honest and open with him as you can. If you feel emotionally overwhelmed, try to find someone else (a friend in real life, a parent, a sibling, etc) to lend you a shoulder to cry on. Yes, this kind of thing really sucks!
he's only 19.... ---------- Post added 5th Dec 2016 at 09:55 PM ---------- I can't even imagine it...
