(!) I came out to my parents last night with an email, I had planned to do it in person yesterday but I chickened out, so I went home and sent an email instead. They took it really well so far, after I sent it my mom called about and hour or so later and we talked for about 50 mins about everything. I think it will take them a little bit of time to fully process it but everything will be fine and it really changes nothing between us. That was always my biggest fear is that they would think about me differently, now I don't think that will be the case. I had planned on only telling my mom yesterday but she let my dad know so I guess the cat is totally out of the bag now haha. They had no idea at all and it came as a shock to them, so I guess I did a good job of playing it straight. This truly was the hardest thing I have ever done, but very worth it I think. I would like to thank this site and everyone here that shares their own stories,victory's,failures and everything in between. Without EC I never would have had the courage to come out to anyone. (!!)
Congratulations! Sounds like a decent initial reaction. You knew going into it, of course, that they would probably need time to fully process your news, but at least your biggest fear didn't come true. Since your mom let your dad know, at least you don't have to worry about one more Coming Out. LOL! And since your news was unexpected, be prepared for it to take on the longer side for them to process it. It may be a couple of weeks before they fully understand and accept what you told them. Parents often surprise us. When we Come Out to them, we have often built up a massive scenario in our minds about how they might reject or even disown us -we have SO much to lose if they do that - and how we are letting them down for not being 'normal.' I think that is the heart of why it is so hard to Come Out to parents. We want to maintain their love, support and respect, but we fear that Coming Out to them could change everything. So far, so good!
Yeah I am actually glad she told him, I planned on her telling him anyways I just pictured it not being as soon as she read the email. I think I got about as good of a reaction as I could have asked for, parents still love me and they understand that I'm still the same person. ---------- Post added 6th Nov 2016 at 01:13 AM ---------- Thank you, I'm happy too big weight lifted.(*hug*)
That's amazing! It's awesome that even though you "chickened out" which it's not really being a chicken to fear ruining a relationship with your family, but that you than got it together to write an email and actually hit send. I'm so happy for you. I'd imagine after sending it you would feel kinda shaky and uncomfortable. At least that's how I'd feel LOL It's nice of your mom to call you and ensure you it's okay
Thanks you! I completely agree with everything you said. ---------- Post added 6th Nov 2016 at 05:32 PM ---------- This is all so true.
100% his first response was "well fuck ya dude I'm happy for you". he is a very open minded person and I had no doubts that he would be great about it, I just had to tell the parents first.
That's pretty funny. My 20-something daughter found a mister-right-now to hang out with. So I asked her (at least semi-seriously), "Are you sure you don't want to be a lesbian?" She kind of rolled her eyes at me. Seriously though, I'd consider such an announcement to be relatively good news. Which is proof that some parents actually have somewhat pleasant anticipation of these sudden announcements.
