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how does the LGBT community feel about cousin couples?

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  1. cstrivingw

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    I am very curious. What are your opinions on first cousins who love each other?

    I have been in a serious relationship with my first cousin for nearly 3 years. we come from an asian culture that views this as very inappropriate. nobody knows, except us. relatives have had suspicions before and warned us to not get close to each other because its 100% not ok. we feel stressed out some times, but we won't give up on each other.
     
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    Regardless of whether you like it or not, marriage between cousins is a very common phenomenon. If you're fine with it then I don't see any problem with your relationship.
     
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    Opinions on this vary from person to person, even within the LGBT community.

    Personally I see nothing wrong with it.
     
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    I support it as long as its consensual and both parties are happy then yeah I see nothing wrong with it.
     
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    Don't care personally
     
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    As long as it's not happening in my family, then I don't care.
     
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    I am all for it! <3 I have been openly in support of those sort of couples for a long time now! I am not attracted to any of my family members personally, but I totally support any couple like that as long as they can and do both consent to the relationship. <3

    That's the same logic a lot of homophobes use with gay people btw.
     
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    Well to be honest, the "feeling" side of my personality is initially a little weirded out by it, but my logical side quickly kicks into gear and tells me "who cares?" I'm not sure I'd be okay with it for heterosexual couples unless they were committed to not having children, but for homosexuals I don't see why it's a problem.
     
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    It's inappropriate imo.
     
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    I feel almost the same as with heterosexual couples - provided it's consensual and you don't inbreed (obviously not an issue with queer couples), I really don't see a reason to fret.
     
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    Depends. If you are boy/girl and want to have babies, I don't know about the genetics side of it and the ethics behind it. However from the standpoint that you won't have babies I don't really care if you are related as long as you are two consenting adults :slight_smile:
     
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    I personally really don't get it, I sort of live in an area where genetics are commonly flawed due to such, but as others have mentioned this is only really an issue with straight couples.

    So while I don't get it in the slightest, if you're gay and consensual, there shouldn't be anyone dealing with permanent flaws as a direct result of it. If anyone deserves my disdain, it is those who selfishly harm others for their personal gain and ignore consent entirely.

    So yeah, seems you aren't hurting anyone. Keep being you?

    Just my personal opinion, really.
     
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    thank you for your input everyone. I'm actually in a hetero relationship by the way

    thank you for the support.

    I understand where you guys got that idea from. However in reality, if you wouldn't tell a a woman in her late thirties or older to not have kids, it wouldn't make sense to tell a cousin couple to not have kids. The risk of genetic disease for both situations are the same.
    the risk is relatively small at 5%, compared with a 3% risk for children whose parents are not genetically related.
    common things like alcohol consumption, cigarettes, teenage pregnancy, and drug use are many times more likely to cause health problems at birth than 2 cousins having a child. all of this information was proven by several studies. you can easily find this information on google if you're curious. Its not very surprising if you think about it. there weren't many people many years ago. mathematically it would've been impossible to create 7 billion people with little breeding between genetically related people. you and i are actually cousins to a certain degree. it doesn't matter what race or ethnicity or age you are.
    Yes, there is an "increased risk of disease", but that shouldn't really scare anybody if you actually take a look at what "increased risk" means quantitatively.
    I wish this was common knowledge. unfortunately, the common misconception about this subject is overwhelming and especially frustrating for people like us.
     
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    Well, I wasn't really sure where the odds were to be honest (though I knew it was obviously far lower than something like a brother-sister relationship). In that case you can count me as wary as I would be with a 30+ woman having a child.
     
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    Marriage between first cousins was legal in more states than gay marriage was originally as a fun fact. I don't think the world views it as weird as some think.
     
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    If it's consensual I don't think I can say it's wrong, so if people want to do that, good for them.
     
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    I think it's inappropriate, people should find someone who is not related to them.
     
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    Honestly, I don't know what most LGBT people think about it. I don't think it's any of my business. I wish you both the best with your relationship
     
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    Elope to a country where it's ok.
    Norway allows it, you just have to ask for permission through a court.
     
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    To be honest it sort of skeeves me out. I know objectively that particularly if there aren't going to be children it's not rational, but it's where I'm at. I think you will find most cultures have at least some level of discomfort with it. I have an aunt and uncle who are second cousins by marriage, so they literally are not blood relatives at all--and every time it comes up everyone still feels the need to point that out...
     
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