Talking to a woman for about a week straight, she tells me she'll talk to me on Monday. It's Thursday. It ends up being she's pissed off that I didn't text her that day (not the first time this has happened to me w/a woman). It threw me off. Now, every night, it's some variation of this: Her: Goodnight Me: Goodnight Her: what's wrong? Me: Nothing. Is everything okay? Her: Yes. You sound different. And then that goes on until she gets me on the phone and we end up talking. Or Her: goodnight Me: goodnight Her: what's wrong? Me: huh? Her: you sound funny Me: you said goodnight, so I said goodnight. Her: what are you doing right now? Me: getting water. You? Her: nothing. Watching tv Five minutes later, cuz she told me goodnight and I thought she was going to bed... Her: well I didn't mean to bother you. I was just thinking of you and wanted to say hi. Sorry to bother you. It's not that big of a deal, but it's a nightly event. Can you get people who do this, to change? Is there anyway I can get her to be straight up with me and just ask to talk? I don't get it!!!!!!!!!!!! Or will this ever change and I should cut my losses now. I've tried talking to her, yet it persists. Do I just ignore it? Because when I do, then the guilt is laid on. "Sorry to bother you" or "I didn't mean to bother you" and things like that. And then those tendencies are starting to leak into other areas.
Wow, judging by your post history, you come across the most irritating kind of women, I swear. lol I think she's just looking for attention. She's trying to act out so you'll respond. You need to call her out on this behavior, and cut your losses if she doesn't change.
I agree with Creativemind. This sounds like a lot of hard work for someone you don't know that well. Especially if you tried talking to her about it before. Maybe let her know you're into her and that you want to address this one more time. But if that doesn't change quick, I would cut my losses. You don't want these problems to persist for a long time.
So, is it just attention seeking then? I don't get it and when I can't comprehend something, I look at you (or that person/situation) like a science fair project that doesn't make any sense to me. And why the heck am I attracting the same women to me, over and over again? Gosh, that does say something about me.
LMAO!! Sometimes I do get triggered and I do react. I shouldn't be triggered, I know, I should just walk away from it. LOL
I think my only suggestion, is to spend some time around New Yorkers. You'll see what you've been missing. What she's doing is the aggressive part, but with the passive added on. It's really the same thing. Only problem is, us west coasters have a way of making it our problem. Try the New Yorkers. It's like a light goes on and we realize, wow some people really do say how they feel.
Myself personally I don't deal with passive aggressive people. If someone's not going to be direct about their feelings or what's bothering them I think it's a waste of my time trying to probe around for information.
I don't think it would ever change. Seems that's the only way to get your attention. Why not try chat some few minutes before her routine "goodnight", and ask how her day went. Something to make her open up more.
I've got a name for those sort, Attention [not nice word]s. I don't tolerate them, I ignore them - don't feed the trolls. The one I broke my rules with and did date turned out to be a manipulative, borderline abusive witch. I won't make that mistake again. So my advice, drop her, ignore her, move on, find someone better.
Oh gosh! That's quite sad but yeah, the writing is kinda on the wall in that regard. Ain't nothin' I can say or do that will make her see those behaviors. She thinks it's completely cool to do this every night or pawns it off to be a misunderstanding. ---------- Post added 27th Oct 2016 at 11:35 AM ---------- That's the thing...we talk every night. I guess that's what confuses me even more. Why the act when you know we're going to talk? Me no get it! LOL ---------- Post added 27th Oct 2016 at 11:36 AM ---------- Yes, my friend, perhaps you have a point. She has shown slight manipulative tendencies. Maybe it's time to leave.
