I'm still trying to figure out my orientation, and one of the most frequent answers I get about my dilemma is "Well that's easy to figure out! What porn do you like?" To which I give a weary sigh. I feel like this is probably getting a little tmi but I've been baffled about it. I personally enjoy porn featuring either gender. I don't pay very much attention to how people look or what gender they are because it isn't the people the arouse me, it's the acts they're performing and the pleasure they're experiencing. I've never been aroused by the just the sight of a naked person, no matter how aesthetically attractive they are. Not sure why that is... When it comes to real life, it's very different. Like, I've watched plenty of erotic stuff featuring men, but when one shows interest in me in real life I never feel anything in return. Even if he's nice and attractive and everything. I've been considering the possibility that I'm a lesbian, but it feels odd when I'm fine watching lesbian, gay, AND straight porn. My lesbian friends say they cant stand the sight of men in erotic content... I kind of just don't care either way. Is there anyone else out there, that feels like their tastes in porn are somewhat separate from their real-life sexuality?
It's actually super common for people to like porn that features genders they aren't into, some for the exact reasons you say. Other people might imagine different people in the position of one of the actors (ie, if watching straight porn they might imagine a particular female celebrity wearing a strap-on instead of the male actor), or imagine that they are in the situation. It's not uncommon for lesbian women to like gay male porn in particular. Lesbian porn has a habit of being tailored for straight men rather than lesbian women, and tends to very unrealistic. Asexual people also sometimes enjoy watching porn (some might have gender preferences, I'm unsure on this), but they obviously would not have attraction to any of the participants or a desire to be in the situation. Like you said, the eroticness of the situation is most often why they would watch porn, rather than because the actors are attractive or sexy. And let's not forget the amount of straight guys who come on here confused as hell because they enjoy watching gay male porn despite never having experienced homosexual feelings in real life. :lol: It's such a common occurance to like porn of genders you aren't actually attracted to. A far better indicator is the gender(s) that you imagine if you fantasize - completely without porn, if you imagine a situation to turn you on, what gender(s) are the people in your fantasy? If you imagine different genders to the one(s) you normally imagine, does the pleasure feel less intense/like "an orgasm for the sake of an orgasm", or does it feel the same intensity/more drawn out/better? You didn't mention anything about women besides expecting you're gay. What is it that's different about women for you? You don't experience any feelings for men, do you experience feelings for women?
I prefer straight porn because I find women more aesthetically pleasing, their acting and personalities more captivating, although I would probably rather go to bed with a man. So I don't think it's weird at all.
Thanks for the answers so far. Glad to hear I'm not the only one who thinks like this. To answer that last question, my deal with girls is pretty complicated. I remember having confusing feelings for them in the past here and there, but I was quick to try to beat it out of myself, since I was homophobic for most of my life. I focused a ton of time and attention on trying to get myself to like guys that I feel like I hardly ever considered the other option. I gave up my strict religion in high school, but getting rid of all that ingrained homophobia and heteronormativity has been more of a journey than I thought it would be. So... I can't say much for certain right now. Just that I'm exploring and keeping a more open mind.
