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Am i falling in too deep again?

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by Nero360, Sep 27, 2016.

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  1. Nero360

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    thanks jamescool.

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    Also forgot to update. The plan didn't work. My guess is he'd probably thought i'd be creepy to ask me to friend him. So yeah, whomp whomp...

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    I actually have another idea. This ones pretty risky.:eusa_thin But, i think i should ignore him. For some reason when I do this he tries everything to get my attention. Especially if I don't even look his way. He'll start tapping the desk, make noises with his zipper, or faintly call my name. What do you guys think? Good Idea or.....?
     
    #41 Nero360, Nov 13, 2016
  2. Quantumreality

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    Hey Nero360,

    As you say, that strategy would be riskier. With your 'ignoring' strategy, if you do it too well or for too long, he may think you are mad at him and don't want anything more to do with him. If he really is interested in you, but even shyer than you are, it still might not go anywhere.

    What about opening up your social media sitting next to him, like before, but when he looks, notice that he's looking and ask HIM if he has an account on that particular social media. If he says 'yes', you can ask him if he'd like to exchange contact info. If he says 'no', you can ask him what social media he does have an account on and then see if he'd like to exchange info. It seems like you are going to have to take a little more initiative.

    Good luck!:slight_smile:
     
    #42 Quantumreality, Nov 14, 2016
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    Just like above, I really don't recommend the ''ignore him'' approach.

    It's just really confusing. If my crush did that, I'd feel really hurt, personally.

    Again, try to approach him yourself and act genuine with him. It's a much better bet.
     
    #43 RainbowGreen, Nov 14, 2016
  4. Nero360

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    Okay Thanks guys. Didn't think that was a good idea anyway.
    @Quantum first off i'd like to thank you for all the support recently, its really appreciated. Second, thats what im scared of most. idk how he will react. I scared thinking about his reaction.
     
    #44 Nero360, Nov 14, 2016
  5. Quantumreality

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    You’re welcome, Nero360.

    Just keep talking to him whenever you have a chance. Small steps. Even though your plans for meeting up on Mischief night fell through, see if you can’t talk to him enough to find out if there is something else that the two of you can do to hang out outside of school.

    Keep trying!

    Good luck!:slight_smile:
     
    #45 Quantumreality, Nov 14, 2016
  6. Nero360

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    I've been looking at this wro so deng the whole time. I've been looking at him like a future partner. soulmate. my problem? i havent been looking at him as a friend. wow i'm so dense lol. Come to think of it he is a really awesome friend. We are friends. I shouldn't be afraid to ask for contact info. We have alot in common and alot to talk about. Once i get my meds for anxiety, im going to be more social not just with him, but everybody. And this way things should turn out for the better.

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    i've been looking at this so wrong*
     
    #46 Nero360, Nov 15, 2016
  7. Quantumreality

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    Hey Nero360,

    I'm glad you're seeing this from a much more realistic perspective! Make friends with him first, then something may or may not develop in terms of a bf relationship, but either way, what can be wrong with making a good friend?

    Keep us updated, if you want to.

    Best of luck!:slight_smile:
     
    #47 Quantumreality, Nov 16, 2016
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    When i was 15 i used to cut my left arm (i dont feel like explaining, but it helped). Every since then most of it cleared up. Most of time i wear long sleeve shirts. Some times short sleeves, but thankgod nobody noticed. So i decided to start wearing short sleeves more since my arm was just about healed. You can still see the razor blade marks but, they were just blending in with my skin more. So today i walked to my desk in class took my jacket off and sat down. Seconds later i hear whisper, "you used to cut?". And I easily handled it by saying it was my cat. Good thing my old amigos from 9th grade didn't here me. They aren't really my friends. But they know alot about me. Like how i don't have pets and is allergic to dogs and horribly allergic to cats.

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    So yeah that happened today...
    I he's not having second thoughts about it.

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    I hope he's*
     
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    Hey Nero360,

    That was pretty quick thinking.

    Was your crush the one that made the comment about cutting?
     
    #49 Quantumreality, Nov 16, 2016
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    yeah
     
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    Well, it sounds like he recognized it pretty quickly, so he must be familiar with self-harm for some reason. And his short comment doesn't sound judgemental. I don't think that should have any effect on your plan to get to know him better.:slight_smile:
     
    #51 Quantumreality, Nov 16, 2016
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    YAY WOOO SO HAPPY, WE ADDED EACH OTHER ON SNAPCHAT! idk what to do, should I text him? I think it would come off wired and awkward. Especially after it just happend.

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    weird*
     
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    Hey Nero,

    That’s great! :grin:

    Keep in mind that you are just trying to be friends with him at this point and you don’t want to accidentally appear weird, as you said, by seeming to want too much contact with him too quickly.

    Maybe you could just text him a short message like “Hi! Thanks for adding me on Snapchat.” Then, see if he responds to that. How does something like that sound to you?
     
    #53 Quantumreality, Nov 23, 2016
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    I think i'll just wait until something comes up that would require me to talk to him.
     
    #54 Nero360, Nov 23, 2016
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    That's cool.

    Good luck!:slight_smile:
     
    #55 Quantumreality, Nov 23, 2016
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    Somthing thats been on my mind awhile. Is why do i get this weird feeling when i see him. When i see him I feel ok. But when i make i contact with him my heart starts to race and i get this weird feeling i cant explain. And when i see him on snapchat I get those same feelings but also some odd feeling of guilt....

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    Eye contact*
     
    #56 Nero360, Dec 3, 2016
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    That's your body reacting to your crush on him, Nero360. It's totally natural and not under your conscious control, but it's one of the ways that you know for sure that your body recognizes that you are really attracted to him.:slight_smile:
     
    #57 Quantumreality, Dec 3, 2016
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    Thanks. Also we started talking yesterday. We just cracked a few jokes and play jokes about each. :slight_smile: It was the most satisfying feeling. And the best part was he texted me first. And it was out of the blue. Nothing built it up or anything lol.
     
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    That's really good news, Nero360! Keep working at it and look at finding things to do with him outside of school, like we talked about.:slight_smile:
     
    #59 Quantumreality, Dec 8, 2016
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    Best of luck dude. Just read up on your posts. Hope it works out for you!
     
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