Asking for a homecoming dress... HELP!?

Homecoming usually is a formal event. I skipped going to all of mine lol.

I'm a fan of the straight forward approach, since you are out to your dad just ask. Which isn't always the easiest way. The main reason I suggest the quick way is, you need time to find one and have it altered to fit you. Cause I am betting anything you pick out will need some alterations to fit you properly.

 

Does your school have some sort of program for getting dresses for those who can't afford them? My school does for formal dances.

If not, pester your dad. Tell him to spoil his little princess.

 

Maybe just scrounge up 15 bucks and buy your own dress at a thrift store?

 

Unlike most people at the dance, you'll wear your dress again cuz you'll be so happy to have it.

 

Stay strong young lady.

 

Aw! That's so sad! Even if your mom was mean because she is worried about your safety, im still kinda upset that she was mean.

Do you have any female friends at school who you're out to, preferably with chill parents? Maybe you could go to one of their houses, invite a few other girls, and they can wear their dresses and bring any extras they have, evrybody dresses each other up, have a dance party in the living room? You could agree to not post pics on social media if you want. I feel like there's got to be a way to still feel connected to your friends and this kind of high school experience as your authentic self. Maybe the other girls would even give you some makeup or accessories they dont really use and you could increase your stash at home.

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If your dad is chill and on board, maybe he could still help you get a dress and make Girls Dress Up Dance Party Night happen.

 

I've been in this situation before.
One time when I was about 8 or 9, my mom and I were invited to my cousin's wedding in Tennessee. We were shopping for what we wanted to wear when she held up a short, purple, sparkly dress with ruffles. She told me that it was in my size and that I should go try it on. I shrugged and went over to the changing rooms. When I had it on, I looked in the mirror and just felt... Odd. I lied and told my mom that it was too tight and that I'd need a different size. To my dismay, as she looked through the cluttered rack, she found one after another that she made me try on until one 'fit'.
As we were walking to get her dress, we passed the boys section. I wondered into the maze of clothes and came upon some tuxes. I found one with a bright purple tie and grey pants/jacket. I grabbed it and ran to my mom, who was holding a white and black-flowered dress up to herself in the mirror, and told her I wanted to try it on. She just shook her head laughing telling me that I couldn't because "at weddings, tuxes are for boys and dresses are for girls." She patted me on the head and told me to put it back. As I put it back, I felt really bad. I really wanted it.
But the day of the wedding, even though I didn't really want to, I saw how happy my mom was when she saw me in the dress. And even though I was unhappy with it overall, I knew it would make her happy. So, I told myself that just because I wore a dress, it doesn't make me feminine, and that actually made me feel better.
And you know what? It all turned out alright in the end. Mainly because I got all the other little girls to take off their high-heels and tie their dresses around their legs, and play in the rain with me

I'm not saying this is something you should do, but I thought you might find something of use out of all of this. I know I always find a lot of good advice and insight in others' stories.
Good luck

 

I hope it all goes well for you <2

 

I'm really glad your dad is willing to stand up for you like that, Co parenting is hard and too often decisions are made with keeping the peace as the first priority. You should give him a big hug!