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At what age did you know you were different

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by Feelunique, Sep 13, 2016.

  1. Kira

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    Ten or eleven, it's when others started talking about "stuff" and I wasn't really on the same train at all. I suppose I was already rather distant from the general crowd in terms of likes and dislikes far younger but that's the age when it started to fall into place.

    It was unpleasant to say the least, I was from a strictly conservative household and the denial hit like an iron maul. I tried to force myself to fit in for a few years after and it was really destructive, slowly degrading me into an awful individual. Thankfully I snapped out and made a few apologies before ending up here...
     
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    When I was in fifth grade I realized I liked girls as well as guys... I literally postponed that (my sexuality) until recently because I met a girl at school and.. I'm falling for her.

    That's why I'm here...
     
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    Good post.

    For me it was never clear until I was in my 50s. With hard work and encouraging words from other ECs members like, SiennaFire, I now know I am truly gay.

    Why so late? I know know that many things happened to me in my early teens that prevented me from understanding that I was gay. Multiple things like not having a role model for one. That was simple to identify. Hard to identify is the major abuse, like being forced to stand naked and ridiculed. Many other things, which are beyond the scope of this post.
     
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    17, 19, 23, 25... I keep havin little epiphanies but not a final veredict.

    I know I like cum in porn, I know I appretiate other guy's personalities and image, I know I like the hand of another man touching me... but I'm still germinating.
     
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    In 4th grade I had 2 crushes, 1 boy and 1 girl. I fantasized about the girl being my gf, and imagined I was cuter than the boy.
    I've always had, and still do have an active fantasy. When I was younger, before I understood what sexuality was, I used to imagine being the guy, and as I grew older I became ok with being a girl in my fantasies.

    I thought I was a lesbian, but when I was in college I knew I was capable of loving men, women, and feminine gays both romanticAlly and sexually. So I was already 23 when I accepted myself As a Bisexual. The ratio of my attraction to f:m is 60:40.
     
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    Never really realised until I was 30. I had romantic and sexual relationship with a friend for 2months. That's when I learned that I could swing both ways.
     
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    In my childhood. I first kissed a girl when I was like 7 or 8... Yeah, that sounds pretty different to me.
     
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    I've known since I was 12, and I'm 17 now.
     
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    15, i started majorly crushing on a guy and realised that all this time i had been having feelings towards guys but never worked out what they were.
     
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    I've always felt weird around certain girls. I didn't realize that it was in a gay way until I was 19, though. I thought it was just me being socially awkward.
     
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    Know? Understand? Not until a year ago. So 19. I asked myself if I'm not crushing on a friend about 14, but it kinda went nowhere. Even though I was quite obsessive. I questioned a couple of times on the road. For me it was gradual. I always discovered more and more under the surface.
     
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    I knew I was bisexual at age 17, although I liked women since the age of 7 and men since the age of 14. I didn't really know it was anything "Different" [that required a label] until after I turned 16, took me a year to find the right label though.
     
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    I've known I was "different" at least as far back as grade 2. I remember noticing I wasn't like the other boys in class in a moment of clarity I'll never forget but couldn't figure out quite why.
     
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    serious crushes around 14 but put word to it around 17 and have had queer crushes around age 5 so???