I was having a conversation with my mum a few weeks ago and she was explaining how everyone has traits a particular person finds attractive (in a heteronormative way but you get the point) and there is always someone out there who loves you unconditionally and is the right person. However, when I asked a friend's parent they completely disagreed with what my mum had said and claimed 'the one' doesn't actually exist at all but is just Based on luck and coincidences. Who do you agree with? What is your stance on 'the one'.
I definitely believe there is someone for everyone but I don't think that means that we always find them or they are the person we end up with. There is certainly luck involved with finding "the one" but I certainly wouldn't dismiss the idea entirely.
I'm quite the negative person, my outlook on life is very dark and depressing, i've been told that by several acquaintances. but i think my opinion about this matter comes in-between your mother's opinion and your friend's parent opinion. i don't think there's someone that will unconditionally love you, it just seems too much of a positive idea for my personal outlook, but i still think life throw some people who are highly interested in you, as chances for a potentially successful relationship, and not as a mere "luck" or "coincidences", in your way and you're the one in charge to decide weather to handle it the right way or mess the chance up. i don't believe there's a single person in this world who has nobody interested in them at all, the thought of that is absolutely terrifying. like even if that person is an outcast or a "loser", based on society's expectations and definition of a "loser", there must be another loser who is at least a little bit interested in them. it's just sometimes people don't notice. For example, when it comes to friendships, i was an outcast for the last two years in high school, like i had no friends at all and for an entire two years i used so sit alone 99% of the time, but i still acknowledge the fact that there's a couple of people who tried to befriend me or get to know me, even for a little bit, but i'm the one who shut them down immediately.
Soulmates don't exist. The very idea that someone was made for you is not only damaging, but selfish, not to mention the statistical impossibility of meeting your soulmate (because only a tenth of the world's entire population uptil today is alive). Relationships are what you make them out to be. It's your actions and your words and your thoughts that build or break a relationship. It's how to act and how the other person acts that constitute and become what is known as the "perfect relationship". You don't just have a perfect relationship with the perfect person. You make it. With good communication and trust. This is not to say that there isn't someone for everyone. It's just, sometimes, that someone is yourself, and other times, it doesn't click instantly, but clicks because you really want it to and try very hard to make it work (which inevitably leads to the fallacy of the existence of soulmates). I'm aware that my orientation somewhat invalidates my response towards relationships and romance, but this is my stance on "The One" (which, by the way, is an incredibly cheesy name for a subject of romantic interest. Makes me cringe every time I see it.)
I agree with this entirely. I think that relationships are things we are meant to work on, and while some must work harder than others, it doesn't change the fact that zero effort = zero happiness in a relationship. Still, I think there are plenty of people who have searched left and right for the perfect mate and just never found one, no matter how hard they looked. :/ It's sad, but I think this happens all the time, especially in today's world, where barely anyone has the time or patience for real romance. X_X I know it seems a little old fashioned, but I really like the concept of trying to "woo" or excite and amaze your partner, before and throughout the relationship. XD I think random acts like that can keep the relationship fresh and fun.
I think this is one of those questions that is dependent on the person. For me yeah I think there is that one person out there. I also realize in finding them the odds are probably stacked against me. Hopefully I'll get lucky!:icon_bigg See to me a soul mate isn't necessarily someone designed for you, at least in the way I think your meaning. More of whatever makes up a person's personality and soul matches with another 'perfectly'. The two people are balanced and a connection like no other is formed. Now this doesn't mean that everything will be perfect in the relationship or that it won't take constant work and love. This should be true for any relationship. Things might just run more smoothly so to speak. I also agree with constantly wooing a partner throughout the relationship though. I mean being with your lover should always be fun and exciting even if your bored or feel crappy.
I don't think there's such a thing as a soulmate or the one. I think it all happens by chance. You could meet someone who seems perfect for you, but there are also a thousand other people who probably fit that bill. And many people date multiple times.
I believe there are several people for everyone. I don't think you only get one chance. Love will always find you, even when the world seems dark xx
LUCK AND COINCIDENCES BRo... I dunno tho, i just don't have opinions on 'things', but i'm too much of a cynical kill joy to believe all that 'The One' bs some people say... (´・_・`) But, basically, yeh, there is probably someone (along with thousands of others on this whole planet of billions, but certainly not just one) for everyone. In the same way that we can have multiple potential good friends, we can also have multiple potential good partners that are, indeed, met through luck and coincidences, but also practically perfect for ya (most likely due to, like, traits and interests working well together but certainly not because of, like, '~**Ɛ>Destiny<3**~' or some shit, yanno?). You'd meet them through luck and coincidences, they'd work well with you and be a snazzily affectionate as heck friend that you can fuck who practically unconditionally loves you, but 'all relationships are difficult' and i think that that statement, itself, kind of proves that no one is 10000% perfect and 'meant to be' with another, but 9999% perf is close enough for that shit to work out nicely. So, i guess both parents were kinda right. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
I believe there's a cohort of people for every person. It may not always be easy to find that person.
I don't think anyone has "the one". I do however, think that everyone can find someone that they're happy with, love and wish to spend the rest of their life with. Let's say everyone dates 20 people before getting married. That's still 5% of people you dated. They're 7+ billion people on the planet. Even accounting for having a "type", I bet there are still thousands of people in the world that you could potentially fall in love with based on their traits. I don't buy into the idea that you have a "soulmate" or that you have "the one". I simply think there are people, and people you get along with and like more than others. So to answer the question: I think there is someone for everyone but they aren't the only person you two can fall in love.
I think I agree with your friend's mum. It's more about luck. And I've had very little of that when it comes to meeting 'the one'. I have felt a lot of love for a lot of men, but they have not reciprocated. I've been approached by a lot of men, but they weren't the type of person I wanted to be with. So I'm clearly not attracting the type of person I want. It seems like a lottery to me - just keep losing until I get lucky.
After everything I've seen in my relatively short life, I'm inclined to think there are many compatible people for everybody or almost everybody
I don't think there's such thing as "the one" or a perfect match. No perfect people, no perfect matches. And besides, aromantic people exist, and polyamorous people, and alloromantics who just don't want relationships. I mean, you can definitely find someone you love and are happy with, but this concept of "everyone has one perfect match" is just silly.
I do believe that there's somebody for everybody I've been thinkin' like that since high school, believin' that humans aren't born to be alone People might that they're the odd one out and wonder if they ever gonna find it's true love. I have been thinkin' like that many times and I surely feel that I somethin' different. Sometimes, it just feels so... hopeless, like it never gonna happen to me. But in the end: Humans aren't born to be alone, so yes! There's always somebody for someone