Yesterday I came out to my 5 friends (That are like my sisters) over text, and It went really well I sent them all The Coming Out Song by Ally Hills and a messaging saying "I really hope this doesn't change anything, Text back after you watch the Video and we'll talk." . They all took the news great and we're extremely accepting. Today at school I was still a little nervous but they all just hugged me and nothing changed at all. I should be extremely happy, After 2 years and 7 months of struggling to accept myself, I'm out of the closet, But im not I mean im not sad but im not happy like I should be...
I have a close friend who is coming out to people now. He said that coming out to people last week felt so good, and now he's a little down. I suggested to him that maybe the emotional high of coming out is followed by a more normal emotional state, and it might just feel "less" than the emotional high did. That seemed to make sense to him. Does it to you?
coming out isn't the moment most people expect don't get me wrong it's infinitely better than living a lie but its doesn't fix all either. my mother ignored it after i said it and secretly told everyone else in my family who also didn't speak about it for 15 years the road to self acceptance is longer than we'd like and having some queer friends friends that you will help enormously
I agree with you that some coming out experiences are not rainbows and glitter, and the experience you shared on your mother's reaction sounds heartbreaking. I'm sorry you got that reaction from her. There was a difference though in BandQueen's story that resonated with my friend's experience (which was coincidentally on the same day) that was specific to a happy coming out to friends and the next day not feeling the rainbow. The road is long to acceptance indeed, for those you come out to, including even yourself. My road turned out to be a roundabout that I could never quite merge into the correct lane. "Look kids, Big Ben!" (That's for the Later in Life crowd).
