A little background: I am a male college student who has been struggling with my sexuality for a little while now. I have been in a serious relationship with a girl for about two years. I have recently begun to question my sexuality and am wondering if I could consider myself bisexual. I feel attracted to men in a romantic sense, and I see men as attractive, but I don't know how I see them sexually. Gay porn does not feel the same as straight porn when I watch it, but I know that porn isn't real life. I really can't tell if I would enjoy being in a sexual relationship with a man or not, and I am unable to experiment, being in a serious relationship. I don't know if its the 20 years of thinking I am straight and being socialized to see women differently or what, but if anyone can help, I would really appreciate it.
Hi. Take some time for yourself. You say men attract you in a romantic way only, correct? Well, since you're in a serious relationship, that is obviously stopping you from experimenting. I totally understand. What you could do is maybe talk about it with your girlfriend? I'm sure she'll support you either way. In the meantime, give some time for yourself alone. Think about it for a while. Ask yourself questions. That's what I did for about 2-3 months and I found myself. I hope I helped. ;u; Let me know if you have any questions. Good luck! ;u;
first of all you don´t have to label as anything if you are not sure/not comfortable ) but you also can use labels if that´s the way for you ) I have a kind of similar story? kind of in the way that I have realized I am not so straight when I was 20...in retrospect, I probably knew it all my life but I just couldn´t accept myself :/ but then I did it and it was the best feeling in the world ♥ it was like I could breathe more easily...for a month I refused any label because I wasn´t comfortable with stereotypes which are linked with certain labels but after some time I accepted myself as bi it just felt right for me and still does anyway, I have only been in relationship with boys....and all of those realationships were kind of shor...it just didn´t work I guess and during all those years, I haven´t been in relationship with any girl...the point is that even when I wasn´t in relationship with a girl I know for sure that I am attracted to them...same way as I am attracted to guys ) you know, you are the best person who can tell that you are or you are not straight you know it...you feel it...you don´t have to be in a relationship with a guy to know if you are attracted...at least that´s how I look at it ) imagine straight 20 years old guy/girl...imagine that you asked them when or how did they know they were straight? I think they would say that they don´t know exact time...they just always knew it...the didn´t need to be in a relationship with opposite gender to know that they are straight ) just...consider yourself as you want ) you are the only person who has the right to define their sexuality ) I wish you luck...have a nice day )
