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I haven't posted here for a while, but here goes. I'm confused

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by XxSunXDragonxX, Aug 12, 2016.

  1. XxSunXDragonxX

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    At the very beginning, I thought I was bisexual. After that, I thought I was a lesbian. Then after that, I thought I might be bi or pan. As of right now, I feel no sexual attraction. I don't really care if I never have sex. Maybe I'm asexual? IDK WTF IS HAPPENING. :bang:

    Well anyway... that's that. :eusa_doh:
     
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    You're still pretty young, so this type of thing can still go up and down. Actually, it can at any age, to be frank. First things first, don't let it drive you into severe anxiety or depression. If that's the case, go see the doctor. For the other feelings, don't flip out yet, just monitor and try to record them for at least a few weeks to see if you can identify a pattern. I'd like it if you do so then post that, so we can perhaps help you from our experiences.

    Edit: one more thing, have you had any actual sexual experiences with males or females?
     
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    No I haven't. I also haven't crushed on anyone before. Don't people crush on someone by my age?
     
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    Normally but it's not odd to be a late bloomer. Don't feel weird, let things happen naturally. We're all here for you if you need help. And if you want help from a woman, my wife posts too, she's a regular old straighto but has had les friends.
     
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    How do you know if you haven't had a crush on someone? Have you ever thought about someone you know sexually?
     
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    Nope.
     
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    Then why did you ever think you were a lesbian or bi? That implies that you felt attraction towards men and/or women.
     
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    I don't know. Maybe it wasn't REAL attraction. :confused: How do you know if it's real?
    I honestly feel so stupid...
     
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    Attraction should essentially be an involuntary response. Like if you touched a hot stove it would burn you. Have you ever looked at anyone and felt something more than just "That's a person". Have you ever found yourself looking at the same person for longer than anyone else, or caught a glimpse of someone and had to look at them again?
     
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    Not really. I've only looked at maybe one actor like that... but not like in a sexual way. :confused:
     
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    You don't need to feel such anxiety about it, you're not really unusual. Please, try to relax:slight_smile:

    I'm a bisexual guy where my feelings, even throughout a given day can change in gender preference. Then say I want a girl, I might only want to see pictures of Asian girls 18-30. It's a mindf**k, I know it, but you're 17 and your tastes are still evolving. I know it's tough but sit tight and don't dwell on it, ok?

    I just recently came out and it was rough at points, so I am here to help:slight_smile:
     
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    Okay.... have you ever been complimented by someone who wasn't a relative for the way you look? How did it make you feel?

    Why is the one actor you looked at not in a sexual way?

    This is getting personal, but do you ever masturbate? What do you think about while your doing it?
     
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    1. I've been complimented by my mother, and it was as expected lol

    2. Because he was very aesthetically pleasing to look at

    3. Yes, but I'd rather not share what I think about. :icon_redf
     
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    Are you saying NO ONE has ever complimented your appearance outside of your family?

    What does aesthetically pleasing mean? Attraction?

    That's fine, I won't push you to share, but if you are thinking about people then clearly there is something there, right?
     
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    I don't know. :/ I shouldn't care anymore... lol I don't think about people when I do it.
     
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    Well, i'm not sure what else to tell you. Just don't stress about your orientation too much.