How would you define or describe your sexuality?

I consider myself a lesbian.

Wouldn't ever kiss a guy. Wouldn't have sex with one (penetration, oral, handjobs, anything). Wouldn't date a guy. Is creeped out by the thought of doing any of them. I'm not even aesthetically attracted to men, I think most of them are ugly or plain, although they can be good friends. That's as far as it goes though.

With girls though.....It's actually....more complicated than you'd think. I'm picky on what women I'm aesthetically attracted to since I don't like female beauty standards or "artifical" stuff (Not saying anyone is bad for using them, just that I like a more plain/average girl. So I'm rarely attracted to models or anything). Also, I'm mostly attracted to girls based on emotional connection. So if we were friends for 5 years, bonded, shared our interests and showed me your flaws....I might start to view you sexually. Typical dating doesn't work though, since I have zero spark to girls I hardly know and haven't bonded with for a while, so I usually have to disappoint them. Dating friends works best. So in a way you could call be demiromantic as well (though I hate that term), though ironically only to girls. I've been best friends with guys the same way and still never get sparks with them, even though a female friend can do all the same things, and know me for the same timespan and get a spark. -shrug-

 

Ooh, we're going into definitions now!

As everyone may know, asexuality doesn't have the most agreed upon definition. The most basic definition (that is still disagreed on) would be that I'll never look at anyone and decide I'd like to connect with them sexually in any manner. But also part of my sexual identity are things like, I'm sex-averse and will probably never have sex even to experiment, I don't really have a libido, considering I don't masturbate and find porn seriously boring.

Defining my aromanticism is slightly harder. As in, romance itself manifests in different people differently, and doesn't have the most exact definition. I can't actually say if I've ever experienced romantic attraction because I don't actually know what romantic attraction is. In a sense, I feel this is a bit similar to being colourblind because I know romance exists, just like I know purple exists, but I don't know what purple looks like because to me, purple is the same shade as blue. Similarly, I don't know what romantic love feels like, because I've never felt what the rest of the world described as romance. Basically, I'm romance-blind, in every sense of the word. (Does that even make sense?)

Another thing, I am willing to admit that I'm not very certain about my orientation, because it describes my future with respect to my current situation. Obviously, the future is unpredictable and all that, which suggests a chance that I may be wrong. Hence the doubt. Even so, I've decided to just roll with my label for now and change it if I need to.

 

Lesbian.

It's pretty much that simple, which I think is lucky since I don't need to explain anything else!

But, to elaborate...

I'm romantically and sexually attracted only to girls. I used to think I was bisexual or pansexual for a couple years, but it turned out that I was never attracted to boys themselves; I was only attracted to the idea of being attracted to them... Yup, that's a funny sentence. :lol: There was once a time I'd never heard of homosexuality, so I just imagined myself with a boy because I didn't know anything different.

Now, though... I know what's it really like to be attracted to someone. Now that I understand that, I know that I'm a lesbian. ^^ Boys don't make me feel nearly as amazing as girls do! This didn't used to be true, but now, just imagining myself with a guy makes me feel extremely uncomfortable and just plain wrong. With girls, it's the opposite, so I'm definitely gay. ^.^ Yay!

 

I consider myself a lesbian. I'm only attracted to women and I've only ever fantasized about women. Which is kind of funny to me because I'm also convinced my strongest emotional love connection was with my male best friend. I just don't think I would ever have had sex with him, especially since as far as I know he was het. So male bodied me would have been a no-go for him and for me as female-bodied me, that wouldn't have worked, either. But I suppose I can't completely rule that out, either. I do know in every other relationship I've ever had that's romantic and/or physical, it's been with a woman.

 

I consider myself to be bisexual.

I've been attracted to guys and gals, both romantically and sexually, but I tend to be more attracted to guys in a romantic sense, and girls in a sexual sense. I don't see many guys and think, "he's attractive," but the only person I've ever loved was a guy I was very close to. I find it very easy to daydream about dating guys and doing all kinds of sappy, romantic stuff with them.

On the other side, I see more girls as being attractive and I'm physically attracted to them a bit more than guys. Romantic interest still plays a big part, but I tend to be attracted to girls initially by their appearance. But even with that, personality and stuff is still a major part of if I'm attracted to anyone.

It's a weird flux that can change, but ultimately I can see myself in a relationship with a girl, or a guy, or someone who identifies as neither; despite certain levels of attraction. Oh, and I guess this is implied, but the whole topic of genitals doesn't faze me. It's all good to me:lol:

 

I would go with panromantic(which was just added to dictionaries this year) as long as it's legal and everyone is having fun I'm game(I'll try anything at least once) Of course there's some things I find more sexy then others and respecting personal limits is a must, but like I said as long as everyone involved is enjoying themselves I'm in.

 

I used to have homoflexible as my orientation but just removed it from my profile 'cause I'm mainly here for gender related help. What I'm basically trying to say is that I'm attracted to girls with a few exceptions like this one guy in two of my classes last year around who I even got a little rosy at times although not in the same way as with girls. I will admit that I like to feminize him a little in that I keep thinking he's a transgirl for some reason. I also do feel some attraction to guys in general just not close to enough to call myself bi.

 

I wouldn't say I'm grossed out by the idea of dating anyone male, it's just that it makes me nervous (whereas the idea of dating a woman makes me nervous in a good way,) and the idea of kissing a guy sounds boring to me. However, I'm still open to the possibility of experimenting with a guy. But I refer to myself as sapphic because I simply just have never had any feelings for anyone male - my crushes have been exclusively female.
When I try to imagine myself holding hands with a guy, the only feeling I get is the feeling of holding my dad's hand or another male family members' hand - it just seems forced and weird. A woman's hand though - that seems comforting.

With women though it takes me a while to develop any feelings until I've gotten to know more about them. Appearance does factor into the equation, as I like specifically more feminine women, but as I find it extremely difficult to connect with people as friends, personality is absolutely essential before I experience any kind of attraction whatsoever.

 

I'm still figuring this out but maybe a good place to ask for opinions/advice.

I believe I can love anyone and have romantic feelings for someone easily but I struggle with sex and sexual attraction. It takes me a while to be attracted to someone, I have like a need for trust to be established and to love them a lot first without doubt.

I thought I was gay but I feel I could love anyone, regardless of gender identity...

Added to this:

I think I might be a Panromantic Demisexual because when I was 16 I was in a relationship with a girl who I loved so much but wasn't sexually attracted too and that killed the relationship but now we are still friends and yes, I can say I am attracted to her now. Me and her are so so close and have this really deep connection but unfortunately she loves someone else. I am 19 now and the sexual attraction has only been recently. Though I have romantic feelings for a few friends, I don't have sexual feelings for them but I wouldn't rule it out in the future possibly. Does that sound like Panromantic Demisexual? Also, does this make sense with me being trans mtf?

I would also like to add I have had sex but never felt connected it with it and felt horrible after

 

I identify as Kinsey 5 lesbian.

I am romantically and sexually attracted to girls for the most part. However, its pretty rare for me to have intense feelings for any random girl. My crushes tend to be... special. I actually dont dig typically 'hot' girls, because you see those women EVERYWHERE and they dont seem unique! Im more into androgynous girls.

I can have aesthetic and platonic attraction to guys, but thats where the line is drawn. I can see how they are good looking and make good friends. But relationships are a huge no. Romance wont feel magical without a girl, and sex is just ewwwww.

I might experience minor feelings for guys on occasion. But it is not enough to make me bi or want a relationship witha man. still a huge no.

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Same!

 

I'm Romantically/sentimentally attracted to girls, oh god female facial features are so cute.
And sexually attracted to penises, yeah like it sounds. I don't really like that much the body shape/facial features of guys. BUT penises blow my mind *-*

I would totally date any gender, but as long as I know I'm much more happy with girls than boys.

The final point is that I don't even know my orientation, so who cares labels?

 

I'm mostly attracted to girls who appear feminine and have traditionally masculine character traits, though if there is enough emotional connection between me and someone else, I wouldn't be scared by the thought of a long-term relationship.

 

I wouldn't use labels for myself as I tried that before and I kept changing it so I would say I prefer males and I am attracted to them but I wouldn't say never to liking or being attracted to a female or any NB person,etc.

 

Wouldn't you be a kinsey 6 then? Kinsey himself stated that a kinsey 6 can feel aesthetic and platonic attraction to men, but would never do anything romantic or sexual with them. A kinsey 5 would date a man (but it would only be one exception) or sleep with a man out of being curious, but would still identify as gay. Not to critique your label or anything, it just seems weird to me. I think my sister is very aesthetically attractive, but I don't identify as a 5 on the incest scale.

 

Bi as fuck and cool with it.

What's annoying me at the moment is that I've thought of myself as 'mostly gay' because I mostly like girls, and I still do think of myself as a Kinsey 4.5 or thereabouts...despite questioning whether I'm trans or genderqueer at the moment and being fairly certain that I'm not a cis female.

I have a tendency to overanalyze and be paranoid about absolutely everything, so I'm wondering if the fact that I still view myself as 'mostly gay' is evidence that I'm not actually a dude and am just a delusional cis girl despite a lot of evidence to the contrary but then again there's lots of evidence on both sides...you see my problem.

*sighs*
I need some sleep dammit.

 

I am a bit confused on my sexuality honestly. However, I consider myself bisexual until I finally figure things out.

With guys, I always feel as though I am attracted to them. I would have crushes on them and stuff like that but it's only after I get to know them as friends. The only close relationship I had was with a male best friend named Ramon though we never went out or anything like that. We would just hold hands and talk and that's about it. I don't honestly know if I ever see myself marrying a man or having sexual relations but I can't rule out the possibility though cuz it can happen. Maybe.

With girls. I know that they are super duper pretty/beautiful. I would not mind wanting to see what can happen between me and a girl once I get to know them. The only thing that had happened between me and a girl was when I was like 10 or 11 and I kissed a couple or something like that. I have been questioning myself for almost two years and I thought I would've figured it out by now but I am still questioning.

Honestly, today I am meeting up with a girl later today after work and I really want to see what can happen. We have been talking for almost a week so I thought it was time to actually meet up today.

 

I identify as bisexual.

I have been sexually/romantically attracted to girls, guys, and nb people with all kinds of gender presentations. However, my "type" no matter the gender are people with short hair and soft facial features. Since I've come to terms with liking women, I find that I'm more attracted to them than I once thought-- right now, I'd put myself as a Kinsey 4. Honestly, if my preference for women and feminine-aligned people continues to increase, I wouldn't be surprised if identifying as a lesbian feels more correct/comfortable, even though I can't imagine never being attracted to a man again.

 

I'm bisexual.

It took me a long time to realise that I like women but now that I know it's such a relief. I feel like I've been restricted all my life and now I'm free to really be me.

I don't know a lot of people who aren't cis so I'm not sure, but I think if I found someone special and they happened to be trans or agender or non-binary, that wouldn't stop me from liking them. Although gender still matters to me, somehow. It's hard to describe.

Right now it's easiest for me to just say I like women and men, romantically and sexually. At the moment, I would rather date a woman and I feel like my attraction to women has either been growing stronger or I have just been allowing myself to admit I'm attracted to women. I still like guys, though, and I don't think that will change. So bi is the label I'm most comfortable with.