If you could with no repurcussions, would you change your sexuality?

All I'm saying is that I don't want to be romantically or sexually attracted to anyone. I crave those types of relationships, but I don't want to want that. I don't want to forgo all human relationships or anything, and I know that isn't what being ace-aro is all about. I know I'm probably wrong to think this way and I have some issues to work out, but this is how I feel about my sexuality at this point in time.

 

Nah. Bisexuality all the way.

 

No I am happy being gay. It is the homophobes who have to change!

 

Never in a million years. I kind of like liking girls...

 

Amen!

 

Hell no! I love being gay.

 

If I was gay, maybe. Being attracted to both genders though seems a lot easier in terms of finding a mate at least, so I'm fine with it.

 

I love these threads. No, really. These threads are always interesting for me because they seem to pop up every once in a while, and every time they do, I get a chance to kind of reflect on the progress I'm making. Everytime I see something with the title "would you change being gay" or something, I ask myself that question and try to see what kinda reaction I get.

Back in the day (Or at least until the start of 2016), I hated being gay so much. I hated who I was. I was constantly crying and feeling sorry for myself. I was majorly depressed, had no self-esteem to speak of, and honestly just thought I had no value as a human being. I blamed everything on the sexuality itself (when in reality it was my family's rejection at fault) and swore behind the whole "If I could be straight everything would be so much better!". So back then, when these threads popped up, I usually said "Yes, I would change it".

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But it's not so simple now. I can't provide a clear cut answer to this question because I'm not really that ashamed of who I am. I feel comfortable liking guys. It's been a really, long, and tough journey, but I'm starting to really kick those self-hating thoughts and the low self-esteem BS. When I do think about being straight, it does seem like a plausible idea. I wouldn't have to deal with society's oppression. I would have to deal with my father's rejection. I wouldn't have to deal with depression and low self-esteem. Sure, I'd just be a naive person who can't really empathize as well with minorities, but I'd not had to go through that painful self-acceptance road. Come to think of it, I'd be a completely different person with a completely difference personality if that were the case. It's almost intriguing to think of how I would have turned out if just one thing was changed about me from birth.

But at the same time. I started to crush and fall hard on one of my co-workers (who's bisexual, btw). And I can tell there's chemistry going between us. We watched TV the other day and started holding hands and such (we not even dating!). It was really romantic... and it felt... right. And I don't want to change that. It all feels so natural and... pleasant. A nice, indescribable feeling. Sure, if I was straight, I would be more than capable of feeling all of this with a woman. But I love this guy. And I don't think I want to change that.

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Sorry, this turned into more of a blog than a quick answer. Anyway, my answer is "I don't know". As I progress along this strange road of discovery and self-acceptance (I'm moving out to uni in a month! I'll be free from my dad's influence so I might start to really get confident in myself!), my opinions on the matter might change.

 

I don't think I would. Even though the thought of coming out in a very homophobic society where I live is terrifying, I'm proud of being gay.

From time to time I imagine how my "next" life would be if I were straight, and honestly it kind of makes me sad, because being gay is a part of who I am, and I like it.

 

I second that!

 

I wouldn't change: my sexuality is part of who I am. Having said that, I'd probably be a lot more productive if I were asexual.

 

So most people...
I would rather be str8; that way I'm not so attracted to everyone xD

 

No, I love dick.

 

hmm.I can't imagine having to like men.

 

No, I love my balls dearly.

 

Me too!

 

No, but it is annoying when my mun says its a phase. I like being bi becausr i have twice as much chance in love ​

 

No.
Just realised it. Feels weird.
If you asked me 10 years ago, the answer would have been "yes". If you asked me a year ago, I would give you a weird look and inform you that "I'm straight" (yeah, lol). Six months ago, it would've been uncertain "maybe, would be easier".
But, now I wouldn't change my orientation or actually anything about me. Except anxiety and shame, and fear, but these things seem to flow away with each day I am out to myself, so I don't need magical solutions for that.

 

I sent months agonizing over my sexuality when I realized it, and now two years later I've only come out to one person and still refuse to tell anyone else because my family thinks bisexuality is a phase and my friends are pretty homophobic.

But I wouldn't change it. I really do enjoy liking guys and gals, and pretty much anyone who doesn't strictly fit into either. Personality has always been more important to me than attractiveness, and not worrying about things like genitals makes it easier for me to focus on what matters to me the most. It's kind of tough, it'd be a lot easier if I was straight. Heck, it'd be easier for me if I was gay; at least then people would take me seriously and try to understand. Not to say it's necessarily easy being gay, but in my current position it would be.

But right now I wouldn't change my sexuality, because it boils down to "I like who I like, and things like gender and sex aren't deal breakers, but just another part of someone I could potentially fall in love with." And I've really grown to love this aspect of myself, even if certain things prevent me from expressing it freely.