I think I have finally come to terms with me being gay/bi. I've known since I was in the 7th grade (22 y/o now), but I've tried to repress the gay feelings (I still masturbate to gay porn).I've recently been watching coming out videos on YouTube, and I am so tempted to come out to my parents, and brothers. I'm worried though because of a Christian background. Anyways, now that I think I've come to terms with it, my sex drive is unbearable. Anything gay turns me on (checking out guys, looking at porn, and even talking about this). I'm so sensitive and I'm worried that I will never be able to find "the one," whether it's a man or woman (I'd prefer to marry a woman). Is it normal to have a sex drive like this? I'm a virgin, but I want to try anal with someone to get a feel for what it is like. I'm hoping this is just a phase, because I'm tired of all the arousal when just looking at pictures on Instagram, etc. I cannot controll it.
Well I am 23, and almost in the same situation as well so I think being horny all the tome is natural for our age.
Oh, it is so, so, so normal when you're 22. Apparently, you've unleashed it pretty well. But you called your sex drive "unbearable." I think I understand how you are using the word....perhaps it's because you're a virgin and you can't stand the pressure. Mostly, I think maybe you have a non-sexual primary problem. And that is, you are facing the truth about yourself, and you really do want to tell some of the people in your life. But you know they will judge you, in some cases, harshly. Let's think of what you could do first. Is there some way you can come out to a more supportive person, who can help you if some of the other messages aren't so well received? I think this should be a priority for you, to find one person in your life you think you can trust, to tell first. The bottom line is that, whether you're gay or straight, the same 22 year-old sex drive would be banging cymbals in your head, telling you to have sex with someone, anyone. About 90% of people your age are going to say that's just what's happening to them.
Well heres the thing. Ive been watching gay porn since I was ~14. In the back of my head, I knew it was a sin for me to do this. But recently, ive finally come to the realization that this gay side of me is never going away, and God will love me for who I am (and why would God make me this way if its a sin?). Ever since I have accepted the fact of who I am, I have been extremely aroused by anything gay (I have a weak spot for viewing images on Instagram). To be truthful, I didn't have friends growing up. I was mainly a loner. I'm shy. I'm quiet. I can barely look people in the eyes. I get nervous when I talk to people I just meet. With that being said, I wasn't around a bunch a guy friends who had a "normal puberty" and sexual feelings. I was never around that, so I feel like what I'm doing is completely opposite. Basically what I'm trying to say is that I don't know what I'm doing. I can watch videos and view pictures, and it turns me on to where I pre-cum and masturbate, and it is extremely annoying. I just want to go one day without pre-cumming. I can get erections easily. One thing that I do remember is when I played football in high school, and being around the other guys. How come they didn't get erections when talking to girls, etc, while I got them when I hugged a guy. My sexual urges toward guys are so strong, I cannot control it. Anyways, at the moment I do have some people (cousins) that I can talk to about coming out, but I'm scared they will tell my parents of brothers. That's what worries me the most.
I'm biologically female and recently came out as probably panromantic/heteroflexible and lesbian. My sex drive was very low in my two-year heterosexual relationship. I only got turned on by thinking about female bosy parts, women, and myself being an the penetrating or the equally "penetrating" partner during sex. So there are also a slight "FTM" dimension to this, still, I just think the feeling is so strong since I've been holding myself and the thoughts back for so long. I ordered a strapless dildo (Tantus Realdoe) online immediately after breaking up with my boyfriend. So much anticipation for trying it on, even with just myself! Anyhow, I'm feeling quite unfamiliar with this sensation of almost constant arousal, maybe due to containing and repressing myself for so long... Right now I'm sarcastically cursing why nobody told me my sex drive would go into overdrive now that I'm out of the closet? I've masturbated like 100 times during the weekend but it just feels like I have an itch that can't be scratched D: How am I supposed to go on a "date" with an attractive girl and contain myself? I mean so I don't freak her out? I don't even know if she's into girls as well :O Then again I'm grateful for the feeling of finally being in touch and accepting my sexuality. I hope it feels like that for you others struggling with the horniness
this is my life and I am 28. it is probably totally normal. I think. I mean it's normal for you. perhaps it's because you suppressed it for such a long time.
Well 1. you're 22, you're supposed to have a high sex drive. 2. You've repressed it for so long, it's like getting a hungry lion out of it's cage. I think things will calm down in time, until then enjoy. Jerk off, have (safe) sex. There isn't anything wrong with enjoying it.
Your sex drive will tone down eventually, but for now just enjoy it. I remember way back when I came out, I was always looking for sex, but now it's toned down. Coming out can be very tricky. Like you said, you don't always know what the person's reaction is going to be. I also come from a Christian background, so it took my parents longer to process that their son was gay. Accepting it was something else they had to do. Luckily, my parents saw me as someone more than just "being gay". However, one of my friends was not so lucky and was disowned by his entire family (his family were super conservative Christians). Luckily, he anticipated this and had a backup plan. Now he resides with a gay couple who also have a daughter (they are also Christians as well). Your safety does come first, so be careful.
I was the same way. I used to LIVE for the times my parents would leave me home alone and I could just masturbate all day. Eventually it did simmer down. I think it's just our bodies overwhelming us with hormones.
