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should I even bother

Discussion in 'Gender Identity and Expression' started by Hatsune Miku, Jun 9, 2016.

  1. Hatsune Miku

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    came out as genderfluid about a year go. ever since then my family not only refuses to let me present myself as anything except a guy, but they won't even use the right fricken name and pronouns. the presentation thing bothers me alot but I have kinda gotten used to suppressing my GID

    however the name/pronoun thing is really grating on my nerves. they refuse to call me by my gender-neutral name, they won't use xe/they pronouns, i'm always referred to as my sibling's brother, and now my sister's pregnant so they're calling me "future uncle." I know they're too dead set in their ways to change their crappy behavior, but I want to start voicing my protestment anyways just so I know that I at least tried and to alleviate my dysphoria somewhat. also doing so will cause verbal arguments...

    tl;dr: should I tell my to my family to use correct name/pronouns/etc. even though they'll probably never actually do so
     
  2. Invidia

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    Sometimes people don't change... that's an unfortunate truth of the world. But sometimes they do, even surprisingly so. So it might be worth a try?

    Anyway, I'm sorry to hear they haven't been supportive and stuff. *hugs*
     
  3. Hatsune Miku

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    thank you for your advice and supportive statment
     
  4. Akane

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    I came out to my mother as genderfluid years ago. And I know she will always have a hard time with gender neutral pronouns. But now that I will probably be taking T calling me daughter, she, her, sister will just seem very strange. So keep in mind that many people were taught that "they, them" are plural pronouns and it will be a very drastic learning process and change to use it as singular.