Hi all, Really hoping for some advice. First I have never been attracted to anyone in my life as much as this girl let alone a girl before. I work with her which makes things hard. She's quite nice. stayed back and showed me around on my first day. helps me when I'm behind. Has snuck the subtle compliment. I have seen her checking me out or looking at me when I walk past. there have also been a couple instances where we are both just looking at each other, I can't describe the look but her eyes beam and I'm sure mine are too. it's intense eye contact and neither of us look away very fast. we haven't spoken too much but now I get nervous around her. I don't even know 100% if she's gay. but she does dress tomboyish, carries herself confidently and more masculinity. and sits sort of boy like, legs more open or crossed like males do. what do you think? what should my next move be.
Just ask her if she want to have lunch one day, then while at lunch tell her you think that you might like her and see how it goes! Don't be scared!
If you do so be it, at least you will know. It's better than living the rest of your life saying what if isn't it? Trust me I understand where your coming from.
I guess your right. I guess I'm just scared of rejection. especially because I have no experience with girls so it's I Unknown
You could bring up an LGBTQ+ topic up around her and see how she responds. Have you come out to her? she might respond to that too. Hope I could help!
Hi, thank-you for your response. I haven't brought anything up yet. she probably thinks I'm freaking straight. I'm just struggling to give her signs that I'm not. just get all nervous and don't talk to her. it shit.
Perhaps you could mention your orientation in casual conversation and see how she responds. :goodluck:
Get a rainbow wristband or a rainbow pin badge that'll give her you at least support lgbt or are lgbt either mention some celebrity you think looks hot or something about lgbt news
Well, I am no expert in this area, but I can give you my opinion. I think if you just started working there it would not be so hard to just ask if she knows of any good lunch spots nearby and ask if she wants to join. I understand that could probably be really nerve wrecking if you are nervous to talk to her. Maybe at first just ask her simple work questions like "how do you do this? where is this? etc." just to get to talk to her more. Just make friends at first, you don't have to jump into it right away. If you are unsure and nervous, I think just keep it casual. Before you find out if she is gay just make it a normal co-worker hang out. I agree with suggestions above. Maybe just bring something up LGBTQ related or ask if she watches a certain TV show. If you are too nervous to talk I agree with the suggestion to just wear a small rainbow wristband or like a human rights campaign sticker. Thats what LGBTQ people around me seem to all do, especially if they look like someone would assume they were straight.
Hi thanks so much badwolf! I think I'm just going to try and just engage in chit chat and try to get to know her better. and hopefully will get a better grip from that. it's just hard because I am never this into anyone.
Do casual..see where it leads. I work with my partner, we met at work, we became friends and through time something more. It was new for both of us but the attraction was mutual but took time. Make friends, be casual, sound her out, see how it goes. Good Luck!
Hi, Thanks Aus. That's what I'm trying to do just be casual and see. I guess I am finding it hard because I don't see her everyday and our work schedules are quite different. We did have a good talk the other day which was nice. She was poking me with a pen because I forgot to do something, and then went to do it in another room and she conviently appeared in the room soon after me and we had a bit of a chat. haven't had any "Les looks" of Late but we've had more of a chance to talk.