When I was anonymously looking on EC and saw a thread about how do you know if your bi or gay. And saw someone post a list of things pointing to being gay over bisexual. And I answered yes to all the things being gay. And I had a moment of realization.
When I developed my first crush on a female TV character, got obsessed with her and realised I was into girls
This is how I realized I was bi! I developed a crush on a male TV character, AND his onscreen girlfriend. :lol:
I realised just over a year ago when I had a crush on someone from my school and the fact that I would rather watch gay porn than straight porn.
a culmination of events; mostly the fact i could only imagine a future with a woman and having the most extreme obsession with literally any tomboyish female character ever to the point of emulation toph
I probably should've realized when I was a lot younger because I was a massive tomboy and was way more fascinated in the gay community and gay rights than any straight person should reasonably have been. Here's what actually happened: *turns 14, develops a sex drive and starts being attracted to girls in movies I watched when I was younger and girls in my class* Well...this is weird...but I'm sure everyone does this! They just don't talk about it. It's normal for girls to like each other and have close friendships. I'm not gay! I like guys! I would've realized before now if I was bi, right? I'm- *falls in love with straight best friend one fateful day* FUCK *cue 5 more months of denial until I just said 'fuck it' and told my mates* *cue a week of agonizing over coming out* That was half a year ago and now here I am. yaaay
When I was 11 and actually thought about sexuality/gender //it should have been obvious I was attracted to girls ffs when I was 9 I thought about seeing girls in their underwear whoops//
When I developed a crush on one of my guy teachers in high school. After that, I looked back and saw all the gay tendencies i had/have and I just kinda sat there and thought to myself "yep, I'm totally gay"
When I got obsessed with one of my teachers, fell in love with her, and then realized that all of those other times when I would always have one girl I was always thinking of...yeah, those were crushes! Wow, epiphany! Haha... But then I realized that I was also attracted to guys, just not in the same way as girls, hence, being bisexual homoromantic.
I knew I liked men from a young age, but I realized I was gay when I got to know what being gay meant at age 16.
I realized I was gay when I developed a crush on my ex-boyfriend (we dated briefly after I realized that). I thought I was pan (still might be idk) but the feelings and attraction I felt towards men was a lot different than the attraction I felt towards others.
I cannot think of one definite moment when I had the epiphany that I was bisexual (perhaps the fact that I initially wrote "gay" instead was some sort of Freudian slip? Haha). In any case, I would say that as I continued to develop as a teenager, I found it increasingly difficult to partake with my male friends in conversations about the attractive girls in my grade. At some point in the last couple of years (it probably would have happened sooner had I not been incredibly self conscious in middle school and did not change in the boys' locker room) I became aware that certain boys caught my eye while we were changing. That tendency to notice and appreciate attractiveness in boys soon propagated to other aspects of my life and has since grown so prevalent as to be undeniable. Speeding up my life a bit, I am currently quite certain of my romantic and sexual attraction to guys, although I can still be attracted to particular girls (that attraction is less intense nor is it as frequent). In general, when I think of the relationships I want to have with girls, they are of the platonic variety whereas with boys I tend to want more romantic relationships. I suppose there was this one time when I was at the beach with a group of school friends and I took an interest in one friend in particular who would soon become the biggest crush I have ever had. My desire to be with him that day was strong enough for me to overcome my fear of drowning.
When I started seeing as many men approach me as I had women approach me. Not saying they were astronomical numbers by any means of the imagination. I'm just saying it was pretty even. But, it was when I caught myself looking outside the box and imagining myself with him.There were a lot of no's and a few maybe if I was drunk enough's. There were times where I went as far as to be in a hotel room with one. It''s sounds nothing like it really was though. I kind of worked there in a bar, bar-tending and I had a free room whenever I wanted one. We had a kickass bar at that hotel. It was often one of us (the regulars and staff) would have to stay the night because of too much partying. This happened to be one of those nights. He and I went for a nightcap, as many of us had done before, but once we got into the room, it was different. The look he had on his face meant business, but right after a quick shower. Once he got in, I got out. He wasn't my type anyways. He was my girlfriends ex-boyfriend. But since all that, I very very slowly started feeling different about sex with a woman. I still loved it, but I started craving more and different. I started experimenting on myself and learned I really liked it. So for me, I guess I had a slow realization.
When an attractive classmate complimented me on my shirt and my heart fluttered. That was in sixth grade. We went to the same high school, are about to graduate, and still have the most frustratingly aimless eye sex since neither of us are out.
When girls in my class talked about how gross would it be to kiss or have sex with another girl, and I realized I had no actraction to male genitalia at all. After that, I remembred that when I was little I wanted to marry a female singer. And then I realized how many crushes I had disregarded with a "she's just a friend who happens to be very pretty". Aaand yep.
I had a crush on and fantasized about my male best friend in 6th grade. I hadn't even been interested in girls yet so I thought I was gay until about 16 years old. :icon_redf I've only recently decided to explore those homosexual/bisexual whatever interests.