About Bi guys and how they date

Yes, all the time. The vast majority who are lucky enough to find life-long relationships are monogamous and cheat no more than straight and gay people do.

The ones who are polyamorous only do so with the consent of others in the relationship.

 

Bisexual just simply means that they're romantically and/or sexually attracted to both genders. It doesn't mean that they require to date both genders to be happy.

 

I have 3 bi friends all happily married in monogamous relationships. 2 with the opposite gender, 1 same. There's a stigma that they'll go after the other sex to get that part of them they're missing.

 

I am bi, but I am strictly monogamous. I am more attracted to guys though, so I tend to fantasize more about them. However, if the right girl came along and was attracted to me, I wouldn't mind. She would have to put up with the fact that while I may admire guys, my loyalty would be to her. Bonus points if she is bi/pan because we will have a great understanding. It's not that straight girls are out of the picture, but they would have to be affirming.

 

Bi people are just like everyone else, some lie and cheat while others just want a long lasted relationship. Just because you're Bi does not mean that you're going to sleep around or be uncommitted. Bi people are just regular people that just so happen to like men and women.

 

I know you don't necessarily mean any offense, but this is a stereotype that needs to go. I have little, if any, desire to be polygamous.

If you ever find a man and marry him, will you continue to find other men attractive? I'd venture to say yes. Would you act on it? I'd hope not, unless that's your thing and your partner is on board with an open relationship. It's the same for bi/pan people. Only difference is we continue finding members of both sexes attractive.

 

It's okay to ask questions, that's how you learn. I just pointed out the stereotype, because it bugs me is all. If I'm in a relationship, I'm with THAT PERSON. I chose them over all the others.

If I'm with a guy, he should be especially flattered, as I picked him to love even over the "safer" option of being with a woman. Not to sound mean, but I gave up straight "privaledge" to be with him, because I love him, and want to be with him. Screw society.

Same if I'm with a woman. I picked her over all the other straight/bi women, and gay/bi men, because I love her and want to be with her.

It's almost more special, in a way, dating a bisexual. If you think of it like that.

Love is love, no matter what form.:icon_bigg

 

I am bi and polyamorous, but I have been in a monogamous hetro marriage for 20 years, and will remain in this marriage until I die. If my wife ever gets to where she can allow me to have a boyfriend that will be wonderful, if not I will not cheat on her.

 

Are you sure those were serious relationships? I don't know the details, but it doesn't sound much like it.

Regardless, that's not your fault. What they did has nothing to do with you OR their sexuality. It's about them as a person, nothing more.

What exactly is it about us that you find gross? And weird? Why are bi women worse than us?(Not being confrontational, this is a genuine question)

 

Yup. I'm very, very monogamous. Once I find a partner, for better or for worse, I'm loyal until it's over. Being bisexual doesn't necessarily mean you're less capable or more capable of monogamy. Just means your umbrella for potential partners is a little wider.

Also, 2sides, I hope you don't think I'm gross. But considering the fact that you seem to think all bi people are disgusting, I might have to feel the same way about you...

 

Bisexual means that you like both male and female genders. Just like someone can like both people with brown eyes and people with blue eyes.
So, it doesnt mean that if you're bisexual and with a man that you will constantly be missing women. Just like you wont be constantly craving after people with brown eyes if your partner happens to have blue eyes.

Get it?

 

^^this...

 

Uh, no. Bisexual people end up with who they like. Sometimes men. Sometimes women. A few never get married, and others have open marriages.

And I wouldn't equate percentages with someone's partner choice, although you'd expect most to feel pressured into opposite sex relationships.

 

I was married for quite a few years and have two children and although I am no longer with my ex, we are still good friends. My bisexuality was always a non factor in my relationship and would be in any future relationship. I am 50/50 bi and am just as faithful than anyone other.

There is no rational reason to be worried about dating someone like me. The fact is if someone isn't compatible, things won't work out, and if a bi person cheats on you for another gender, then that isn't indicative that 50/50 bi people are untrustworthy but just that that one peson was a douche.

In my last relationship I had no compulsion to go with someone of a different gender to my partner over some misguided belief that I need to have both males and females to be satisfied anymore than a straight guy who likes, say Caucasian women and Asian women, needs to have both to be satisfied.

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