So I texted my crush this morning telling her that I like her, and while she was unsure what I meant at the beginning due to my terrible phrasing ("So I kind of "like like" you"), I cleared it up and she replied: "Omg no way holy sh** I'm flattered. I honestly don't know what to say." How should I reply to this, or would it be better to wait until I see her in person at school to talk about it? EDIT: I was planning on asking her out if she felt the same way about me, though I can't tell if she feels the same judging by her response.
Hi there! Your response would pretty much depend on your original intentions with letting your crush to know. Are you hoping to go on a date with her?
I am, but I was only going to ask her out if she reciprocated the feelings. Her response was difficult to tell if she feels the same about me or not. >.<
Do you know her sexual orientation? If so, how would you feel about taking the next step, and asking if she'd like to join you for something low key - say a walk?
She's a lesbian, like moi, and I would only ask her out if she told me, or made it more clear that she likes me back. A walk sounds nice, but I would be too scared of running out of things to talk about and walking in awkward silence. I was thinking of asking her out to a local dessert place, so at least when conversation runs out we can talk about the food. :lol:
That's true. Asking her to join you to the dessert place is a great start. It's low key, and you would get together in a place you seem comfortable in/with. So maybe try going for it, and see what she says. I don't think you have anything to lose.
I need to wait until I find out if she likes me first, remember. According to her response, do you think it sounds like she does?
I thought you could still ask her, and see what she says, as the response wasn't a confirmation, nor a 'I don't feel the same way.' Alternatively, and from the sounds of it you feel more comfortably with the option of seeing her in person first. So maybe try talking with her a bit more first. From that you should be able to see whether she feels the same way. When you speak with her and she has a similar (if not the same) response, it might be best to hold off then, or trying to get to know her first. This should give you a better understanding of her true feelings for you.
When someone says, "I don't know what to say". Your quick reply is "Say you'll go out for desert with me."
Yeah, I think I'll wait until monday to talk to her about it. I would be scared that if I asked her out for dessert now, without knowing how she feels about me, she would be a bit surprised and taken aback, and her response might be, "ummm I'm not sure." ---------- Post added 1st May 2016 at 04:06 AM ---------- Very smooth! :lol: I feel like someone way more confident than me might say this. She would likely be very surprised if I said this, and the way it's phrased might make her feel anxious and/or pressured to say yes, even if she doesn't feel the same way. It's a good idea for a different situation, though, or in the case that I knew she felt the same about me.
Uhhh......you just told the girl you liked her. That's kind of what you do after going out for the desert.
One thing first WELL DONE!! I never really had the guts to do it anymore since I have been turned down a lot. Just go the desert date and if she doesn't reciprocate your feeling then at least you to can still be friends and it won't turn super awkward.
Oh my god you were so brave! I seriously would have never had the courage :eusa_clap The idea of taking her out for dessert and discussing this face to face is great, and if she doesn't reciprocates, you can still remain friends :icon_razz Anyway, good luck and let us know how it goes!
Congrats! Be sure to update us on the situation you took a big step and should feel proud! Even if it doesn't work out, you'll make a friend :icon_bigg
