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50 and gay

Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by Cam50, Apr 28, 2016.

  1. Cam50

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    I have finally come to terms with the fact that I am attracted to men more than women. I just can't deny the fact that I want to feel the embrace of a man. I have to now build up the courage to tell my wife and family...
     
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    Hi Cam, welcome to EC and thanks for sharing your story. There are a lot of us on here with similar stories. We'll all be happy to listen and offer support.

    Keep posting and also read through some of the threads on this forum.

    Big hugs, you've made a big step by coming out to yourself.
     
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    It's so great that you've excepted yourself..
    Your wife and family will only want what's best for you and for you to be as happy as possible..
    They will most likely still except you in this day and age..
    I'm sure your children will be fine with it and your wife is basically a life long best friend and not just the mother of your children.. This sounds a tad bit corny..
    Anyway.. Best of luck..
     
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    Thanks all
    It already feels great to just I am gay here in this forum. I really want to shout it, I AM GAY. Look forward to telling you more and learning from all of your experience.
     
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    Hey there! I'm working through the same situation now. I'm married to a wonderful woman and have awesome kids it's just I've never really lived as the authentic me. Check out people's past threads like mine; there are plenty to read.

    I know what you mean about saying out loud. I love to say it out loud when I'm alone in the car. Makes me smile lol
     
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    Hi Cam, it's very brave of you to have said it out like that to us. I also agree, I'm asexual or aromantic, and keeping it in all the time isn't something I like. It doesn't feel good; it feels like I'm keeping something in and not letting it out.
    Whenever I'm alone, I like saying it out loud. Don't let anyone bring you down by it.
     
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    Posting my reply here, since the OP posted here too.

     
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    Cam, welcome to EC. This is a great forum to learn more about you.... Interesting avatar. I remember having a huge crush on Batman when I was a kid.
     
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    I'm looking forward to reading more. Proud of you.
     
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    Hi Cam

    It's a scary world out there when you take your first tentative steps to being true to your real self. I can certainly understand. I've just moved into my own place, told my wife & children that I am gay and dealt with other significant family problems. However, today I am happier than I've known for years and find myself smiling and looking forward to the remainder of my life, without regretting all the good things that marriage & children brought me. I've done this all within the last year & I'm also 50!
    You've taken your first step to being truly happy & you deserve that. All the best.