And by the time they have their suspicions and confront you, are you going to be ready with that? At some point you are going to have to tell people but it's clear that you are not yet comfortable to come out. Do you have a close friend who you can talk about your sexuality?
I want to tell them but I can't so I want somone to ask so I can just say yes and not try to bring up that I'm gay somehow
Yeah I think a pride bracelet would be a good idea. Many people may ask if you're gay, and then there's your chance to simply say yes :icon_wink
If it makes it a bit easier, you could try merely implying it before actually confirming anything. Generally, when my friends are talking about meeting girls and they ask if I have anybody or want to meet one, I'll laugh and say "As if" or "Why would I want a girlfriend?". What I'm wondering is, would you prefer for them to ask about your sexuality instead of you telling them? Either way, you're going to have to confirm it to them at some point if you want them to know
It sounds like you're going to have to work through being comfortable saying you're gay out loud, which may take a bit more time and courage yet. Anyways, I like the idea of a pride bracelet: that's what I wear because I don't feel like telling others constantly. You can also "camp up" your actions a bit more (this is probably the classic cue that gay men use to signify themselves to other gay men), wear tight fitting clothes, do up your hair, etc. I'm not saying be a stereotype, but others often look to some of these stereotypes in identifying gay men.
I can't even say it out loud let alone do anything to make people know that I am gay.. It's not that I don't accept my sexuality.. I just can't say that I'm gay even when I'm by myself...
If they know you well and you are very feminine as you say (not to encourage a stereotype that all gay men are feminine) they may have guessed. I am not a masculine or obviously gay women either, but my close family and friends knew before i told them
Hey Nobo, It sounds like you accept who you are but you arent comfortable with sharing that with other people, thats perfectly normal, when you see the kind of reaction sensationalised in the press, and the bullying at school it is hard to be comfortable sharing such a private aspect of yourself. All I can say is that it will get easier the more you do it, and the more you come to know who you are, and your self confidence grows. This happens with age as you move into your 20s and with small steps out of the closet. I recommend you find a friend who has expressed an acceptance of LGBT people, or is themselves out, they might be a school friend, or a family member like an aunt, uncle who are lesbian, gay or bisexual. Someone you can build a relationship of trust with and talk to them about it, write it in a letter, or send a text, or best of all tell them on the phone or face to face. That first step builds your confidence a bit, then another and another... It also helps you to figure out who you are which supports your self confidence further. All the best, Tom
