My best friend is bisexual and I've known that for a while. He asked me quite a while ago (sometime last year) what my sexuality was, and I couldn't give him an answer because I didn't know myself. At the start of this year I discovered I was gay. Now, when he asked me that question all I could say was 'I don't know,' because I didn't, and he seems to have this idea that I'm asexual. He's brought it up from time to time and I've asked him to stop calling me asexual. I'm really thinking about just coming out to him because it's killing me inside whenever he refers to me as asexual, but the thought of it makes me nervous as hell. I'm not out to anyone but a few Internet friends. Should I tell him?
Hey Shadd, I personally think you should. He is your best friend and if it is bothering you that he is saying that then you should tell him the truth. I know it is scary but he would definitely understand. Good luck whatever you choose to do!
Whether or not you tell him should depend on how much you trust him. There's no need to rush. But when the time comes you can simple say: "Hey brad, remember when you asked me what my sexuality is?" And you can reply with the direct approach: "I'm gay" Or "I know I'm not straight." To which he will probably respond with: "You're gay/bi?". Just as a side note, most people don't go around asking people what their sexuality is without a reason. Reasons may range from searching for a gay friend to having a crush on you. But nothing's certain. You can always ask him why he was curious about your sexuality in the first place.
You know, I'd never really thought of that. That he might have a crush one me. I kind of doubt he does (I don't exactly look like the most handsome guy in the world), but he has complimented my personality quite a lot which does make me question it now that I think about it... Thanks! ^-^ ---------- Post added 17th Apr 2016 at 01:27 PM ---------- I asked him over Skype messaging because I'm a nervous fuck in person.
It's your choice weather you come out to him or not however I garentee he shan't quarrel about it considering he is LGBT+ ... He has a clear interest in it and has been in a position of hiding his orientation before so I'm sure he can relate to you wanting to keep it a seacret if that is your desire I'm not good at this kind of advice though because I'm so inexperienced
I think you should. You'd support each other since you are barely out and he is your best friend. It could make things a bit easier. It is your choice, but I totally would come out.
I asked him, he didn't have a crush on me or anything like that. He was just concerned that I didn't know (even though I do .-.). Still not plucked up the courage to tell him, even though there have been many good times in which I could have done.
Why are LGBT+ people supposed to come out anyway.. Isn't it just your business who you are atracted to or want to be or feel like or whatever rather than the business of everyone you know.. I'm starting to think that I wouldn't bother coming out because it isn't something that should effect people and frankly, isn't anything to do with them... Maybe I'm being stupid... I don't know...
