I matched with this 22 year old guy who's 7 miles away from me. I'm 17. Should I message him first? Or have him message me. He seems very nice from his pictures.
This is not the answer to the question you asked but what do you want from this person? Just sex? A date? A relationship? Also, your age difference seems fairly big which is a bit concerning for me.
Then you are in a wrong place and most likely the guy is too old for you. 1) In the apps most guys are just looking for a hook ups and casual sex and are willing to deceive you if they think it's going to land them in your pants. So even if you put in your profile you are looking for serious relationship you are not likely to find one. 2) If you were 25 the 4 year difference would not be that big. You are 17 and still in high school. This guy has already probably graduated with an undergraduate degree or is about to graduate. You are in totally different worlds in terms of maturity and circumstances so a serious relationship does not look particularly likely. If you want a serious relationship you need to meet people. Perhaps local LGBT association or a LGBT club in your school.
What if he messages me looking for a relationship? Should I just decline stating he's too old for me? There people in my senior class who're also dating college students.
I'm not telling you to really do anything. It's your life and you need to make the decisions for yourself. All I'm doing is giving you some facts and perspectives to this matter. It's possible that you could have a successful relationship with this guy but that's not really the issue. The concern is to make sure that you don't have wrong expectations and that the gap in the emotional development and maturity of you guys isn't too wide. If this would be your first relationship as I suspect the chances are that you could fall for this guy very easily and very hard if he shows even moderate amount of interest in you and this is bad if his only goal is just to have a quick shag. There is no harm in talking and you don't need to say anything to him if you decide you don't want to have anything more serious with him.
Honestly when you turn 18 sure! Thats a 4 year difference. That honestly is not 'big'. I see lots of couples 2-4 years apart and one long married couple in my family is 13 years apart!!! But like I said wait until you are 18...
Thank you for all the comments. I'm willing to wait until I'm 18 and learn more about myself. If you have anymore advice please comment I like to hear your opinions.
