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Being gay and introverted

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by lastking, Mar 26, 2016.

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Are you introverted or extroverted?

  1. Introverted

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    69.6%
  2. Extroverted

    5 vote(s)
    4.3%
  3. Somewhere in between

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    26.1%
  1. TXTurbo90

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    I have always been very introverted. I hate going to large parties, and therefore most of my friends that I have made are very much the same. Any more than 8 people together at a get together makes me feel very uncomfortable and I usually end up just retreating into my "shell". Even in high-school I would usually pass on party invitations as I would either hang out with 1-2 friends or be alone working on whatever project I was working on at the time. (usually a computer or automotive project)
     
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    When I was younger I was kinda bullied and excluded by the other kids. That caused a lot of things to happen that affect me and my mind set today. One of those being introvertedness and social anxiety, but I do become a bit more extroverted and less anxious when around my friend.
     
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    Off the charts introverted.
     
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    OP here, I didn't expect to get so much feedback. Thanks to everyone for sharing :icon_bigg
     
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    I am introverted. I do not like large groups of people. Going to to clubs is something that I do not enjoy for that reason. I prefer to be in groups of 3 to five people and like to listen to the conversations people have.
     
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    I think introverts are drawn to online communities like EC. They aren't so energy intensive, and I do wish there were more LGBT groups that catered to introverts.
     
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    Fellow introvert here. :slight_smile:
     
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    That would make sense by the polling results and part of the reason why I feel so at home here.

    A while ago I was searching for an LGBT club to get involved with in my area, and they all seemed to be doing activities that required the members to be very outgoing/extroverted so I eventually gave up searching. I can completely agree the community needs more groups that cater to introverts such as ourselves.
     
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    Everyone has a different degree of ambiversion, which is a mix between introversion and extroversion. Personality differences in this aspect are not the most important to me, as there are higher qualities of a person to search for. Have a nice day! :icon_bigg
     
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    I'm an introvert, but can push a bit of extroversion if needed.

    Basically, you won't see me at parties, or if you do, I will need to go outside often to get a break from the loud music and multitude of people. However, I can enjoy small parties with people I know.

    When meeting new people, I usually don't talk much and won't really try to initiate contact. However, if they do approach me, I will answer. That's usually how I make friends. That or mutual friendships. Once I know someone well, though, I can appear extroverted to them. I will talk a lot, be overly energetic, talk about crazy ideas etc. But, I don't stay like that for too long. I need to recharge.
     
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    extrovert, loving being life of the party.
     
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    I agree with you, all the LGBT groups in my area seem to involve activities with members who are very extroverted- social and outgoing. I don't know where to find other introverts who I can meet in person. :icon_sad:
     
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    I'm really introverted but I know a some other LGBT people at my school who aren't.
    There's actually a transguy who sits right behind me in one of my classes and he's probably the biggest extrovert I know.
     
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    I'd say in between because:
    I like lots of alone time but am not scared of dealing with people
    I don't need a relationship but it isn't because I'm scared of what would happen
    I'm not particularly shy but I don't like spending too much time with people, especially if I might not be thrilled with some of them
     
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    I actually chose the "in-between" option even though I don't really like going out to meet a bunch of complete strangers at a party... but when I like people I wish I could spend more time with them just the two of us or 3-4 people at max. So there IS a need for it in me especially since I've gotten acquainted with a few like-minded people. I guess once I try something and like it, I develop an addiction to it pretty quickly.
     
  16. Embi

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    I can't call myself an introvert because I do talk a lot and am never quiet when I'm hanging out with people. I love the quiet peace of being alone at home too though. I guess I'm too anxious and socially awkward to be an extrovert.
     
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    I am absolutely an introvert! Also, my first LGBTQ friend is an introvert, so I figured it was the norm...
     
  18. Bobsleigh1

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    I'd say i'm more of an introvert... ( ̄︶ ̄)
    Thing is, all the LGBT people on this site are probably the type of people that prefer talking through text on a screen (since... you know... that's what we're doing right now and such...) as opposed to irl so...
    Although... I bet extroverted people would love to meet new people to possibly meet irl on here or something....
    I dun even know, logic is hard... ('_ ' )