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Being gay and introverted

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by lastking, Mar 26, 2016.

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Are you introverted or extroverted?

  1. Introverted

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    69.6%
  2. Extroverted

    5 vote(s)
    4.3%
  3. Somewhere in between

    30 vote(s)
    26.1%
  1. butHitlerisDead

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    Well not sure this poll is accurate because people who spend time on online forums are most likely to be disproportionately introverted. I don't think gay people are statistically more or less intro- or extroverted than the rest of the population.
     
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    I classify myself as an introvert. I function better when I'm alone and have time to recharge my social batteries. Most of all, I enjoy it...to an extent. I hate putting myself out their at times, because it's not my place to be cast-ed out cold. That's not to say I do not like to socialize and party and such. I actually love to do all those things, but I'm not myself when I'm at those functions. Often times, I will pull out my phone and end up scrolling through Facebook if I end up finding an empty room. Most people find it rude that I will end up secluding myself or act like I'm in my own little universe, and while they may be right, I know what's best for me and I will continue doing what's best for me.

    Honestly, I've grown to hate the introvert/extrovert dichotomy. It's another label that people place on their heads to feel like their a part of a group. While I do realize it's a basic psychological need to feel like a part of a group...it feels like we sometimes 'box' ourselves up too much and use that as an 'excuse' to do or not to do something.
     
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    I am kind of introverted but trying to become extroverted and I am doing good so far :music:

    Aka trying to get over my shyness.
     
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    You're aware, right, that the extroverted gay people are all out at parties...that it's us introverts that frequent sites like this?

    And I see absolutely no contradiction between being queer and being in the minority, LOL. Perfectly at home with being alienated by the majority of people, tyvm!
     
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    In between. I like to go to work and go to martial arts and go to my gay group but I don't wanna hang out with them after and I'm very specific about who I hang out with and when I do it.
     
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    Somewhere in the middle but on the introvert side. I get along well with friends but I'm super shy when I first meet people.
     
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    If the poll is anything to go by then introverts are the majority. Maybe the extroverts just don't use this site though.
     
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    I think, also, it's become very trendy to identify as an introvert, and that it's not as cut and dry as it's made out to be. I'm working on a thread about how perceived introversion seems to be becoming the latest cool thing, as if extroverts can't be just as deep, thoughtful, empathetic and emotional...I get sorta crabby when people seem to be putting down extroverts, which also seems to becoming more and more of a thing...but it's late, and so I'll return to this later.

    But it's suddenly as if EVERYONE wants to be an introvert...and not just here.
     
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    I'm an introvert, as...shocking as that might seem. I'm pretty outspoken to my friends, but when it comes to basically anything else, I shrink. Plus, I cannot be around people too often or my energy gets sapped dry. It's not fun.
     
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    Yeah you have a good point. A lot of people seem to think that being introverted makes them more interesting.
     
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    I'm an introvert and I've always hated parties, or sleep-overs, even if it's with two other people. I never knew the majority of lgbt people were extroverts, I would've guessed it was about 50/50.
     
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    I'm an Introvert. I'm more of a listener than a speaker, even online XD
     
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    It all depends on the circumstances e.g. How I feel that day, Where I am, Who I'm with etc.
     
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    It depends on who I'm with
     
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    I'm cautious about saying introvert because I feel that it's used far too often to just explain away people's shortcomings. I'm not saying that it's always a cop-out but it kinda is sometimes. My behaviour can fall into the "Introverted" category better than others but I, like everyone else am/is more complex than a one word description. I'm only "extroverted" with people I'm comfortable with but again basically everything is subjective and I disagree with it being a minority more of a stereotype and they exist for a reason.
     
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    I'm introvert. Sometimes people tell me I'm boring but I enjoy what I do for fun (dinner, going to the movies, hang out). Don't listen to them if they say you are not enjoying or whatever, if you are having fun being in quiet places or just having lunch with friends, that's what you should do.
     
  17. Yes, but I can look like an extrovert. I like socializing, but I need my time alone. I also enjoy one on one conversations more than constant loud parties.

    I think extroverts just don't understand your situation, because they aren't you. They need constant social interaction, so they don't understand finding pleasure in being alone, reading a book or having a cup of coffee. Just be you. Constant socializing can make one drained.
     
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    I was introverted until I came out!
     
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    I'm i guess i'm introverted too. I hate going out to places where i don't have to go, sometimes i don't even come along on family trips, which is basically just one of four things: going to mc donalds, lakeshore, some lame african party, or a funeral/quran reading for someone who died. Always one of those. My older sister likes to take me out, for my birthday she took me out to downtowm to get sushi, and then we spent TWO FUCKING HOURS roaming around watching all the dumb attractions and creepy people there, and i pretended to like it, it was my birthday after all. She also pressures me to get a girlfriend and join clubs in school, i think she's slightly retarded because anyone with half a brain could tell that i'm introverted after being with for five seconds. Goodness, she's dumb!

    I honestly don't think i was always like this. When i was little i liked be around other people. But i guess i started when people always make fun of every single aspect of me, and grade 5.....i'll leave it at that. So i started hating everyone, and realized i don't really have anyone in real life who gets me 100% and took to this forum. Story over.
     
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    Oh definitely, unless I'm completely comfortable with the people I'm around I'm incredibly introverted and socially awkward. I can't meet new people or talk to them and I've always been reasonably quiet and self conscious. I've been out with my extremely extroverted LGBT friends and it was awful, I can't stand the attention that comes with being loud. That being said, the way I deal with being introverted is to drink. Yeah, not the best solution but what can I say? In the right situation drink is a blessing in disguise.
     
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