Saying "That's so gay" to describe something

Hear this almost obiquitiously, but then again, it is highschool, so i don't think it's that shocking come to think of it. It does, however, make me feel bad, and tells me a lot about that person....

 

It's a vile thing to say and I am completely thrown off of someone if they say it. Seriously hate this one, anyone using this term should be ashamed of themselves; especially if they personally are LGBT. How can anyone be okay with this?

 

I've done that a few times. Or I'll say "Why yes, it is rather homosexual."

It gets used often enough by friends that I really don't notice or care. Often times they'll realize what they've said and apologize. Once, a friend of mine actually called me 5 minutes after I had left and apologized profusely for using gay in that way which I really appreciated but it was unnecessary.

 

I don't really get offended, as the expression is used too often.

However, some people do get offended. A lesbian friend of mine wrote and read to our class a poem she wrote last year mocking the use of that expression, saying that it should only be used when something is literally homosexual or happy.

It's time for everyone to move on and stop using this expression, as it could offend some people. And as for us, we also need to stop being offended. Sure, we can advocate the abandonment of this phrase, but we must do so without showing our being hurt.

 

YES. It bothers me. That's like saying (when you trip and fall) : That's so straight! Or, that's so bi! Or- That's so lesbian. Nobody says that. Nobody should say anything about something about gay unless it's positive or neutral and directly related somehow. Not fair!

 

I DO say "that's so lez" sometimes haha. But again I'm being entirely literal. I only call something gay or lezzie because it actually has something to do with same sex relationships or stereotypes that I'm using to poke fun at myself or a close friend who's in on the joke. I don't use it as a straight up insult. I use it literally.

 

Yeah it's dumb. What's sad is that even if the people saying those words don't really see being gay as something negative, the fact that they spread that phrase around and others hear it, does a lot more damage than they realize. Younger kids hear it and think, oh well gay means bad, and then they start saying it.

I don't know about you guys, but I haven't heard that as much in the past several years to be honest, at least where I am.

 

>_< So once behind someone's back I told others that I thought this dude's hair was "gay". Previously I had played with it, so naturally when some asshole told him what I said he came to me and accused me of being two-faced. He wouldn't let me explain that I "literally" thought his hairstyle looked gay, as in I thought it a hairstyle that homosexual men would like. I got so much crap for this, but to me it wasn't even an insult. Guess some straight guys are insecure. I felt like it was his problem, not mine.

 

Doesn't that defeat the object of not using a sexuality to describe something you don't like, though?

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I'll admit that I do use '[that's] gay that' or '[that's] proper gay' as a sort of reflex, because so many people around me have used it over the years, but I obviously don't mean anything by it.

Most people I know who use the expression have no problem with the LGBTQ+ community. People throw about 'white girl' as a slur all the time and no one gets offended, do they?

 

Variations in usage of gay/faggot and retard were probably the most commonly used insults during my high school to junior high years and I probably used them as often as anyone else my age, even though I've never had any particular animosity towards either group.

It becomes habit forming and after awhile you use the expressions without even thinking about it.

Now that I'm older and supposedly wiser, I've made an effort not to use either word in that fashion anymore, though I sometimes still slip up.

However, I can't say hearing other people use the word "gay" in that fashion really upsets me. It's a bit annoying in the same way that it's annoying when people say things like "don't be such a girl" as an insult, but it doesn't ruin my day or anything.