Does anyone still find themselves saying "I'm not gay!" when asked?

Nobody ever really asks me and I see no reason to talk about it as a lot of people are quite conservative and it will just cause conflict by trying to push my beliefs on them. Instead I just live my life and ignore or try to ignore what they think.

I would never say I was straight to someone but I would just be like and usually am like me what does it matter.

 

Yeah I've said no when I've been asked before and then was defended by a family member when the person asked me this.

Definitely gonna come as a shock to them when I'm like, "Hey, remember when so-and-so asked me if I was a lesbian and I got offended and said no? Well, surprise, I actually am!"

 

Well, I get asked aren't you just really gay? I say no, but to some people I have to say yes, because they have already assumed that I am a girl and I will probably never see them again so it doesn't really matter.

 

its a bit confusing since im a somewhat closeted trans girl but generally i dont deny it :v

 

I just once said to my friend that I dont know what I am without even realising. She looked shocked in my eyes and my head started burning. She continued talking and I wondered wtf I was talking about.

 

People rarely ask me although I think quite a few of my friends suspect something. I mean my closest friends know my story but there are a lot of friends I'm not so close with.

When faced with this question a lot depends on who is asking and how it's asked. If I am asked by a stranger in a polite manner then I usually just respond along these lines: "Why do you want to know? Are you looking for a boy friend?" or "I don't comment on my private matters."

If a friend asks nicely I give them a choice: Do they want the long version or short version. Short version is "it's a little more complex than that" and the long version is my actual status.

If I'm asked rudely or otherwise inappropriately then I just respond by telling the person (irrespective of their sex) to "suck my *ock and see if I come".

 

It doesn't happen too often but any time I have been asked in the last year or two I have just been honest and stated the truth.

I think there are some situations I would deny it for personal safety reasons but I'd like to think I would be totally honest the rest of the time.

 

My boss wondered if I didn't have a boyfriend because I am a lesbian. Of course I had to deny and throw off an awkward excuse. I'm just too afraid of losing my job and my boss's protection.

 

No one really asks me, but I probably wouldn't deny being pan.

 

I'm very gay, but I still lie when asked offline. If the general public were to find out I'd be afraid for my safety, it's super religious where I live.

Being gay, atheist, and a girl is like wearing a big striped target on my back right now.

 

You need yourself one of these:

 

There was this one time when me and my friend (he's a gay guy and out, I'm not out and he knows I'm gay) and we were talking and messing around a little. This girl who was sat near us asked "Are you guys going out?" and my heart stopped (this was before my sister knew also). It took all I had in me to not go red and say something, which is hard because I'm really socially awkward. I said "No." Some girls around her laughed and the girls who asked said "What? We were all thinking it."

Me and my friend didn't speak that much for the rest of the lesson. It was awkward as hell. It was really cruel that she did that to a closeted person, but how could she have known?

This also annoys me because guys can't talk to or mess around with each other without being considered gay. Throughout Year 7 to Year 9 some people called us gay (before I actually knew I was) just for talking to each other. Like what the hell?


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L0L

 

This is perfect. I need this on a button.

Heck, I'll take 6. :eusa_clap

 

I used to deny it when I wasn't out, but now I easily say yes if someone asks me.

 

Nobody ever asked me. I am willing to believe that I'd tell the truth, but I know me and how stupid I can be at times, so I might deny it.

 

:roflmao:

 

All the time. Only one of my BFFs know. I don't even know why, as there aren't even any homophobic people at my school (or they're not loud about it), but I guess I'm worried people would end up treating me differently subconsciously?

 

No. I would deny it for a while during fifth grade, but after that I stopped and it never became a habit. I hate lying so I used to just give ambiguous answers or change the subject.

 

Uh.. Yeh.. Tout les temps

 

I very rarely get asked questions to instigate that answer, but even if I were ever asked then I'd simply be honest. I'm not ashamed about who I am.