Hi everyone For some time now I have been friends with a guy I like a lot. At first I was sure he was really into me by the way he looked and talked to me. But now after almost 3 months he has nt really made any moves yet. I know that he is gay but I dont know if he knows Im gay too since he has never asked me. Also he sends mixed signals to me. He also has a boyfriend. I really like him and want to hang out with him a lot but I dont want to look too pushy.How should I approach him about my interest in him or let him know tht Im gay. He acts realy "straight" with me such as handshake instead of a hug whichmakesme think he doesnt know I'm gay and the reason for his mixed signals. I appreciate any suggestion!!
"He also has a boyfriend" Aaaaaaaand that should be your answer, I'm sorry.... How long have they been together?
thanks for your reply. For like 3 months maybe; not that long. I know its selfish perhaps but I feel we are near perfect for each other and want to at least give it a try
Assuming he does like you, there are two reasons he hasn't made a move 1. He has a boyfriend 2. And he doesn't even know that you're gay so even if he had feelings he wouldn't make a move on a guy that he thinks is straight
based on what I know fromhis personality, he is way too proud to tell anyone he likes them, even his boyfriend. I wont mind telling him Im gay, but he has never asked before in anyway. I dont want to replace his boyfriends and know the limits, but I want to let him know in one way or another that I likehim and want to know his feelings aboutme as well. How should I bring those points up to himwithout it being tooawkward?
So you say he's been with his boyfriend for about 3 months, the same time you've said you had interest in him. Obviously he was not going to make a move during that time. It's best to not meddle in his relationship and leave it be until it's over. I know it may be tough but going after unavailable guys is not a good idea Also he doesn't have to ask for you to tell him that your gay. It's rather scary for a gay guy to make a move on another guy who you don't know is gay, especially if they're a friend
Huh, no harm in letting him know, and be friends. And who knows, maybe things just won't work out with his current boyfriend. I wouldn't bank on it, but ya never know if he's gonna be back on the market, so to speak.
For what it's worth- I have a VERY good (gay) friend who I have a crush on. I have decided that some friendships are best left to be just friendships...
If he has a boyfriend you need to back off a bit and try to suppress your feelings for him. Be friendly, but do NOT cross that line.
Yea, he has a boyfriend. There's no harm in telling him that you're gay, depends on how you do it. He might either take it as a signal that you like him, or just be supportive about it. You also said he's "straight acting" so he might have a different idea about what he wants in a relationship. Think about how he would react if you were in his shoes.
He already has a boyfriend and three months isn't exactly a long time to tell whether or not a relationship will last. Let him be happy, I don't think telling him you're gay would hurt anybody but don't make things dramatic by telling him that you like him, that might make things awkward for the two of you. Be happy that he's happy.
