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How often do you experience sexual attraction when out in public?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by SubZero, Feb 15, 2016.

  1. Alder

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    Occasionally but not very often. I can find quite a few strangers good looking but sexual attraction usually takes a bit more than that for me.
     
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    Typically, I don't find that many guys attractive as I am quite picky unfortunately.
    Also, the way a guy carries himself can turn me off. I may find a guy attractive, but if he acts or is trying to look tough, I'll immediately stop admiring (this tends to happen at college a lot for me).
    There are two types of attraction for me: 1.) He's cute or 2.) Wow, how is someone possibly that good looking? (which definitely leads to some admiring)

    However, as people said, since there are more people in cities guys seem to catch my eye more often. I specifically remember walking around New York once and spotting about 10 guys in 5 minutes that I found attractive (and that doesn't happen often for me).
     
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    Almost never, really. I can obviously spot guys I find "vaguely attractive" (which can sometimes be quite different from what is considered to me "mainstream" attractive).

    But, I'm not actually finding myself attracted to them. It's not as if I start imagining romantic/sexual situations or even spare them a lot of extra thought above "not bad-looking!"
    That sort of attraction really only comes from prolonged interaction. The way they act, the way they talk, the way their eyes look when they're happy, sad, or enthousiastic.

    And by that time, initial impression is almost moot. When I think of my boyfriend, I see the hottest guy in the world. But it's mostly about how his voice sounds, how his eyes light up when he talks about his hobbies, or the silly way he rolls his eyes when I say something dumb.
     
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    I'm interested as to how you came to this hypothesis...

    Both variables are correct for me (I'm always scanning for hot guys in public and was very sheltered and in the closet during adolescence), but I'm not understanding the connection. :confused:
     
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    Constantly-every day.
     
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    Every day which ends in 'Y'! :lol:

    I see countless guys and I think "I wonder what his dick looks like or what would he look like shirtless?". There was one uber cute guy just as I got out of my car at uni this morning and then a girl came running up behind, grabbed his hand and they walked off, I died a little inside :lol:

    Why are there so many cute straight guys! It's not fair!
     
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    Never.
    Go asexuals! xD
     
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    All the time. I got caught checking one woman out on Monday I haven't been as embarrassed before but she did smile when she realised I was checking her out. I think over the past year I've started openly checking the ladies out more
     
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    I would say a moderate amount. I think a lot of it has to do with comparing them to unreasonable standards. Like if you're comparing them to the hottest celebrities or super models then yeah most people in public are going to be a bit dissappointing physically. Having said that though there are a lot of attractive men (or whatever preference you have) out there and arousal happens. Although a lot of different factors can come into play to determine how often you feel aroused in public and to what degree
     
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    Almost never. I am only attracted to people whom I know about.
     
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    Often, but maybe that's because I'm not too picky.
     
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    I don't really, although I don't tend to pay much attention to others as I'm a rather anxious person and really just want to get to wherever it is that I am going.
     
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    Pretty much every day, I'd have to say.
     
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    Well, there isn't much science to it.

    I just feel like because I've never went to school past 2nd grade and had close interaction with other males my whole life other then family members. I've never been desensitized to sexual attraction. It doesn't make sense. In my mind it does though.
     
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    Eh, sometimes :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
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    Almost ubiquitious. I just look at people i find attractive as much times as i can before they walk away or leave, i dometimes feel like such a creep too, cuz i wonder if they ever notice XD
     
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    All the time. 99% of the time is girls. I'm in a relationship, but that doesn't stop me from finding people attractive. It's not like I'm going to do anything about that attraction.
     
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    I get it now, don't worry.

    However, I assumed your definition of sheltered was different from mine. I went to a school for my education and had many interactions with males; I guess we both were just never desensitised to sexual attraction.
     
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    Not often. Most days I will see a hot girl and be like "wow" but it's nothing special.
     
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    Pretty much every day. There are so many good looking guys at my university, it's ridiculous