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'Super gay phase'

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by Loveislife, Feb 8, 2016.

  1. Loveislife

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    I feel like I'm in some sort of 'super gay phase' right now. With that, I mean that I've been super interested in gay news, gay celebrities, hanging around gay people, gay events, gay books, gay music, etc. etc. etc. ever since I realized I am gay. I'm nearly only interested in things that are gay at the moment, basically. This might be the case because I didn't acknowledge my gay feelings until 6 six months ago after having repressed, denied and ignored my gay feelings for more than 20 years. I'm only consciously experiencing and accepting my gay feelings now so I'm starting to see the world in a whole new light and I feel like I still have a lot to discover regarding my sexuality, life as a gay person and what being gay means to me for my identity. I feel like I have a lot of catching up to do because I was in such deep denial of who I was for so long that I missed out on thinking about these things while I was a teenager. I was wondering if there might be people on EC that have been through or are going through a similar phase? Is this a common experience for gay people, or might it be that this is more of an unique experience for me due to my long and deep denial?
     
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    I did go through a 'super gay phase' when I first started accepting that I was gay. I think I did it to feel normal. Reading books, watching movies, and learning about famous gay people really helped to "normalize" the whole concept for me, and it offered comfort and a bit of hope for my future.

    These days, I don't really focus on those things anymore. I guess I've reached a point where I'm comfortable in my skin and the thought of being gay isn't all that odd anymore.

    I think every gay person goes through this phase to some degree and I believe it's a common experience. You're not alone. There's so much to discover about yourself and in retrospect, I think that's half the fun! :slight_smile:
     
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    Yeah although I'm not gay. For the most part when I started discovering my sexuality I identified as bisexual. I guess that was last May....Anyway, I was ONLY interested in anything relating to bisexuals. I would read blog posts, news articles, rants on tv shows, etc. I guess it is normal for people who are figuring out their identity to be obsessed with it. Only because they're finally acknowledging who they are for the first time. Just like you I ignored my emotions/feelings for anyone of the opposite sex simply because I was taught that it was not right.
     
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    I just came out last weekend and I'm definitely in a super gay phase much like yours. I've especially been writing to my gay and bi friends and reading this forum. It's like after all the denial and repression, I just want to wallow in being gay.
     
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    Never really been drawn to gay specific media, but i do remember watching "prayers for bobby" and the like when i first came to terms with my sexuality. Found some sort of comfort in that i guess
     
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    It's definetly makes me feel more normal when making everything I absorb Gay. All time spent on my phone is either EC, LGBT youtubers, gay porn LOL, listening to music, or reading gay news.
     
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    Most LGBT people go through this. I certainly did... hell, I still kind of am in it. It's perfectly normal to want to learn more about a group of people who share something in common with you.
     
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    Yeah, I feel like I've missed out on a lot, and I'm trying to normalize this aspect of my life.
     
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    Aaaah it's nice to know I'm not alone! :slight_smile: I was worried that I was becoming a little bit too obsessive, lol. But yeah, I can definitely relate to what you guys are saying. I'm just going with the flow right now and I'm enjoying my journey.
     
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    I've been through what I'd call "gay phases." I would decide I don't like men anymore and read and watch all the lesbian stuff. Then I'd grow tired of it and go back to identifying as biromantic, which is my truth. My sexuality is fluid.
     
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    Seems pretty normal to me. I think the more you come to terms with that, the more you want to discover, learn and understand, all in one. I did the same as well. Journey still hasn't stopped for me but it's sure warming up a better future for me.
     
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    It's pretty normal. I remember when I had my gay phase. You'll get over it. Once you accept who you are, you'll want to look up other people to compare. at least, thats what I did. It's calmed down now hahaha.
     
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    Yep. Been in a similar phases since late last summer. Have to admit to feeling a bit burned out at times though.