Man or Transmasculine/demiboy

would you like to go on HRT?

 

Hello,

Gender expression does not determine gender identity. Gender identity is how you feel within yourself; biologically and socially. Biological dysphoria might not always be trans, it could be body or muscle dysmorphia. Social dysphoria is how you want to be seen by others, and what pronouns feel right.

I'm agender. On a scale of one to ten (1 = F, 5= N, 10 = M), I have a 5 identity and a 4 expression. I use they/them/their pronouns.

Hope this helps.

 

Take all the time you need to figure out your identity there is never any rush! If you want you can always post to my wall if you want to talk about it. (*hug*)

I identify as a trans guy and I use he/him, but when it comes to how I feel I never really feel that masculine. Never in my life have I ever felt feminine before so most of the time I am pretty neutral! However I know I am male, I want to look male and be treated as one how masculine I feel has nothing to do with it.

 

I feel fairly neutral, but since I want to be male physically and socially I identify as ftm. I use he/him pronouns and sometimes they/them. I used to identify as genderfluid, then transmasculine, them ftm. When I identified as genderfluid, I called myself genderfluid but mostly male. When I identified as transmasculine, it was because I thought of myself as mostly male. I started IDing as ftm when I realized that I didn't have to feel 100% like a guy all the time in order to be one, and that plenty of cis guys don't feel strongly male either.

 

HRT = Hormone Replacement Therapy

 

For FTMs, that means taking testosterone. Sites like Hudson's Guide have info on changes and myths associated with taking T.

 

I am pretty sure those side effects go away after being on T for awhile basically its just a second puberty.

 

I thought I was transmasculine and not fully Ftm for a period of time. I also tried on labels like genderfluid/queer, but I was always much more masculine than anything else. I realized I was Ftm when I started school back again in September and realized how bad my social and physical dysphoria was. So I came to understand that most of my reservations came from gender roles more than anything else, and I now identify as a femme trans guy and I'm totally fine with it. See, the key thing was that I identified on the inside as male all of the time.

As for pronouns, he/him pronouns felt really right for me, but after being called she my whole life, it did take a little getting used to. I don't mind they pronouns either, but very much prefer he ones.

Basically what I'm saying is you don't have to be a super masculine guy to be trans. (It's a bit funny for me because I was considered a tomboy before coming out, but there's still little things, you know? )

 

I think I really needed to hear that.

Though I'm still 97% in the irl closet about it, I identify as a feminine male, I think. Does that make any sense? I would be secure in a completely biologically male body, even if I were to wear dresses in that body. And I'm mostly into men. I am a very smol, queer man who still uses she/her pronouns because, as I mentioned before, only two people really know. :lol:

 

That is definitely possible. Lots of people internalize transphobia, and it can take time to realize the extent to which it has been internalized.

 

Maybe just try talking to transgender friends you have and maybe they will be able to help you as they obviously know you way better than we so here. Its a suggestion and it might help. If that doesn't work out feel free to come back to me or us.

Good Luck,
Gay1234