I'm a virgin.

Ok....look at it this way....virginity is not something that can be taken...it is something you give......

 

Just keep it in the back of your head...you'll be fine...

 

Virginity is subjective. The main reason straight people think you have to be penetrated to lose your virginity is because that's the only way reproduction happens. A lot of straight people even think that anal sex still makes you a virgin (again, no reproduction) so the concept would exclude gay men as well. But since gay guys reclaimed it for themselves, I don't see why we can't count whatever we want.

Also virginity is pretty much an old dated concept that was about women being property anyway, since men at the time had no clue whether or not their kids belonged to them otherwise. The hymen was used as an indicator, but these days it means nothing since the hymen can break from non-sexual things.

Being penetrated doesn't hurt as long as you get aroused enough first, so just take your time. But if you don't want to be penetrated, you can still consider yourself a non-virgin.

 

not sure if it might contribute much from male perspective

physical virginity never felt like anything special to me and after my first physical relaitionships i didnt feel anything special about it or different.

I felt that I was not a virgin anymore after maturing a bit, and after several physical intercourses. When I knew what I want, how I want it, from whom I want it and actually acquiring it. For me virginity was more of a psychological thing.

So in my opinion, from my perspective from what you say you are a virgin. But I guess the important part is what do you think a virginity is? How do you perceive virginity.