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A random person messages you on social media, how do you react?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by lovetoomuch, Jan 21, 2016.

  1. lovetoomuch

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    So, a lot of people on here mention taking a risk and how it doesn't hurt in trying. I find myself having a crush on a guy that I don't know him extremely well, even though I do know he is gay. I've been consistently going back and forth with whether I should message him.
    We have talked a little in the past, but I started the conversation, so I don't want to look desperate. I also have a constant fear I'm bothering someone if I messaging them first, especially if the person is good looking (I don't why, probably insecurity issues).

    So, if a random stranger or someone you don't know well messaged you, how would you react? I would be very kind to the person, but I imagine most people not reacting the same way.

    I would eventually like to build the courage to ask him to hang out, but it would be completely creepy to do it out of nowhere over social media. I just don't know how to really start a conversation. I feel like messaging someone "Hi" is weird in itself.

    Sorry if this post is very confusing and thanks for any help!
     
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    'Oh look, a new person. Nice.'
    "Hey!"
     
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    Ah yes! It's always a battle against insecurity. We all suffer from it at one point or another. Do I have a good enough personality? Are my looks sufficient enough for him? All of those fears....

    I'm trying to get a better understanding of your post. Did you start the online conversation or did he?
     
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    I started the first conversation, so obviously if he was interested, he probably would have messaged me again. So, that's why I think it would be dumb to message him again.

    But then again, I kind of don't want to give up. :confused:
     
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    Is this guy someone you went to school with? How well do you know him?

    I'd give it a day or two then message him again. If you begin to annoy him he will probably let you know but no biggie, it's just a lesson learned. If he's gay and you guys eventually hangout then something may come from it.
     
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    I only use Facebook so when a random person messaged me, I always look at our mutual friends and if I dont see any I would just ignore it... Unless the message contains something I should give attention at.
     
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    Depends. If they just sent something like 'hi' I'd probably be pretty chill and say 'what's up?' however if they're just creeping I'd probably respond sarcastically or ignore them.
     
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    I find it creepy most of the time. I remember getting sexually harassed by this guy when I was fourteen. He was so creepy he tried to get me to join where are you now after I blocked him on Facebook.
     
  9. lovetoomuch

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    Thanks everyone for the responses. I'm just not going to message him again and hopefully move on, I'm not trying to come off as creepy or desperate. Thanks again!
     
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    Unless he/she is hot and/or starts the convo in a very interesting or peculiar way.
     
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    This reminds me of an old joke. Do you know what is the difference between flirt and sexual harassment? The looks of the person doing it.

    To OP's question. It really depends. If the person is a total stranger I would probably be extremely reserved. However, I have one friend who I had never in person before and she messaged me first to talk. We had mutual friends though.
     
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    Look at the manner in which they replied to you. If they seemed at least fine with you messaging them and not short-changing you to get the conversation over with, I'd give it a second try. All friends start off as strangers. You never know what may happen. :icon_wink

    To answer your question, I always reply - given that it's not spam. I don't mind talking to new people online. I find it hypocritical that so many people just ignore and don't open their message requests yet, in the same sentence, say that they want someone to talk to or some new friends.
     
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    You guys are so friendly, I would feel put off if I received a random hi from a complete stranger. I would think that person was trying to get me to buy something.
     
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    I would usually use a more polite tone, but before long that'll fall into an easy, casual tone, though I may still keep my guard up, depending. However, I do make most of my friends online, so until/if they give me a reason to block them, I'll keep in contact.
     
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    Depends on if I want to sleep with them or not.
     
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    I don't reply. Simple as that. I'm not a talkative guy and if I can't immediately place you or your name/face, forget it.
     
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    These responses are funny - lol. I'm not exactly a stud, so I'm going to keep my distance at this point.
     
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    It's been my experience with facebook that no one interesting exists on there at all so probably ignore
     
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    Block them, then report them. That's what I do if something like that happens.
     
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    I say hi back, if we have mutual friends.