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Do you make the first move or do you let the other person do it?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by lovetoomuch, Jan 19, 2016.

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Do you make the first move?

  1. Yes, I almost always make the first move.

    7 vote(s)
    11.5%
  2. No, I always let the other person do it.

    23 vote(s)
    37.7%
  3. It depends, sometimes I do and other times no.

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    50.8%
  1. lovetoomuch

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    So I posted a similar thread in the "Family, Friends, and Relationship" section and am quite shocked by the answers. I asked, "Do you typically ask out your crush?" and most people have answered "No."

    It surprised me and made me think about something. If no one is asking out their crush, a lot of potential relationships may never happen because no one is willing to make the first move! That honestly depresses me and makes me reevaluate making the first move. Maybe I should do it more in the future; worse comes to worse, I get rejected and move on to the next one. It's better than waiting around for years in my opinion.

    So do you typically make the first move or let the other person? If you don't mind, please explain your answer as well! Thanks!
     
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    Generally, I'm not an assertive person but for the right individual I could make an exception. Men usually have most of the pressure on their shoulders in making a first move so kinda makes it tricky in a homosexual relationship. I hate not being the assertive type. It's certainly a characteristic I need to work on.

    I'll have to visit your other thread btw!
     
  3. mobrien1993

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    Usually I let the other person make the first move unless I have a feeling they feel the same way about me. I don't really have a lot of self confidence so I'm always afraid I'd get rejected
     
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    I am also confused with this as I never properly went on a proper relationship. So I am sorry for hijacking this thread
     
  5. Joelouis

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    It really depends on the person, but usually I'll take the plunge.....and most of the time I fail. But if you don't ask, you don't get.

    I'm not going to be one who doesn't try, then sit around wondering why it never happens.
    After all, the worst they can say is "no".
     
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    I've always been quite the shy person and never thought I'd be the one to make the first move. But in recent years I've come to realize that life is short. If you want a chance with someone, do something about it:slight_smile:
     
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    I didn't have much occasion to do that yet, but I have asked a crush once.

    It's something I would only do if I feel I have a chance. Unfortunately, it didn't work out for me, but I prefer trying than feeling sad that I never did.
     
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    :confused: I tried to take this poll... but the truth is, I have no moves. I also might completely miss it if someone makes a move.
     
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    I don't want to make a fool out of myself so I always let the other person do it.
     
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    I'm not the type to idly sit by and let a crush slip away from me!
    (I just get rejected, that's all)
    But still, I feel a sense of finality knowing whether or not they like me! :grin:
     
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    I would never be able to make the first move cause every time I would just embarrass myself.
     
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    I never been in relationship thus might also figure out I dont do the first move :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
    In online games though i sometimes say tactics stuff in case I see ppl are not synchronized :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
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    Neither ever happens
     
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    Take all of my upvote, stranger.

    Even if someone tells me that this other person is into me, I still couldn't do it. I prefer security in the "no" than uncertainty in the "yes".

    I also generally keep my sexuality to myself (unless you knew me when I felt like telling everybody at age 14) and - not counting online friends - I haven't bothered telling anyone since 16.
     
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    It depends on the person. If it's a person I feel are very dominant I'm simply too shy/scared to do it even if I know they have a mutual interest.

    If it's someone I trust fully already, or know are shy I will make the first move.
     
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    I always let the other person ask, I'm too chicken and self conscious about myself..
     
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    I am always afraid that I am not thinking the same thing as the other person, and I do not want to offend them. Plus, the people I have a crush on are not usually gay. (Sigh)
     
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    i just let the other person do it just to make sure they are on to it.
     
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    I'm way too shy to approach someone. And this is why I'll die alone.
     
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    Well I haven't had anyone make a move on me :roflmao:
    So I always make the first move.