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Do you have to kiss a woman to know you're attracted to them/you are bisexual?

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  1. KorrasamiIsBest

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    Kind of a dumb question? I don't know. :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes: I haven't kissed anybody but I have fallen hard for women more than once, and men a couple times. That is why I feel/I am bisexual. I have always had a strong preference for women, so I'm not sure what I'm confused about exactly. So do you have to kiss a woman to know you are attracted to women? Also what does it feel like to be kissed by someone you love/are attracted to? Thanks in advance :slight_smile:
     
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    No, you don't have to, but if you have the chance, don't miss it, or send her to me.
     
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    Short answer: not necessarily.
    While it is true that it's often difficult to tell what your sexual preference is if you haven't experimented, some people do know from a young age and you can fantasize about and have crushes on people of the same gender without being physically involved with them.

    As for what it's like to be kissed by someone you're attracted to, I wouldn't know lol. :frowning2:
     
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    Nah, you don't have to. If you're confused about your sexual orientation, experimenting will probably help, but you don't necessarily need to kiss or have physical contact with a certain gender to know you're attracted to them. Kissing will probably work as a comfirmation though ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
     
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    This is a similar question to what I am facing from my parents. I came out to them as gay less than a week ago and they seem to think I cannot exactly know my sexual orientation because I've never been with a woman or a man.

    However, I am basing it on attraction and feelings. I have had strong crushes on guys in the past and I am sexually attracted to men while the most I will ever see a woman is "beautiful" or "nice" and nothing more. I don't think you need to; I've never kissed a guy and I am quite certain I'm gay.
     
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    Also it helps to see where your eyes seem to be drawn when you're around other people. I.e. if you look at girls a lot, that could be a clue. But no for everyone, as some people don't often feel that way toward strangers. It's different for everyone really. I think if you've fallen for girls before then you're into girls. And just fyi, if you watch porn, your preferences for that do not mean anything about your orientation usually because it's so different than real life sex, so don't pay attention to that if that's something you do.
    You'll figure it out in time. If you've been sure before, it could be you're just afraid to accept something you're not 100% sure on just in case. But it's totally okay to change your mind and have all different types of preferences and levels of attraction, so just let it come to you.
     
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    Sexual identity doesn't need to be demonstrative; people rarely ask heterosexual people how they know they like the opposite sex. If you're attracted to a person and want to kiss that person, it's pretty likely you'd enjoy the kissing part. Not that I actually know that, when it comes to women. But, I am pretty sure I'm right, all the same. :icon_wink
     
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    I don't think so.
     
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    Short answer: doubt it.
    Long answer: I doubt it.

    I'm helpful. :lol:
     
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    Of course you don't! It might come as validation of some sort but your sexual orientation is not defined by the experiences you have. That's why so many people know they aren't straight from a very young age.

    As for your last question: It's hard to answer because the feeling is different for different people, you know?

    Anyway, if you get the chance to do it, go for it! It will probably confirm what everyone is saying and you will know what it feels like first-hand :slight_smile:
     
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    No no, or course not. Attraction, what you feel, is what determines such things not your actions and don't let anyone try to convince you otherwise.
     
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    Noo way!
    From a young age, I was more into hanging out with friends (male and female) not stressing over how hot guys were with my girl friends. I didn't get what everyone was obsessed with in relation to guys, their hot butts (what makes a bum hot?!), etc etc. Don't get me wrong...as I got older I could appreciate a strong jawline or a wee bitta stubble, but As a teen... That meant little to me. I started to doubt if I was attracted to ANYONE?!

    Then, in my early 20s I met the love of my life. He was perfect. I fancied his pants (and his hot butt :wink: ) and I finally understood what people were talking about!
    And now, 15months on in our relationship, he has come out to be as transgender MtF. And you know what....I love her even more !

    And I didn't have to kiss her to know I loved her.
    Love defies gender roles! Kiss who you want...its your life :grin:
     
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    You sound like my uncle
     
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    No, but it obviously confirmed my suspicions.
     
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    I've kissed a woman recently and I found it exciting, but to me I didn't find it as big of a deal as I thought it would to be perfectly honest. I was so scared to do it in my mind for the longest time. It gave me a lot of confidence that the next I want to kiss a woman I won't be scared or nervous to do it. This only my experience though. It also confirmed that I really am attracted to women where as before it was more of a thought in my mind. I really enjoyed the experience and can't wait for it to happen again. I also think if I meet someone I'm really attracted (emotionally/physically, etc) to the experience is going to be mind blowing.
     
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    Well, I've kissed a woman and I'm not any clearer on my sexuality than I was before. :lol:
     
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    I suppose it's different for some, but personally, I shall contribute an emphatic no to the mix.

    Never kissed a girl, but to state the understated, it wasn't a prerequisite to being certain of what every fiber of my soul craves.
     
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    I suppose not.
    I've kissed both women and men. To be honest, the girls have been better kissers. More gentle.
     
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    Nope : He sounds like me