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Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by davidfreckelton, Jan 12, 2016.

  1. davidfreckelton

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    I have never been bullied but if you have stories
    also I found a song that makes me feel really good when I'm down: "Hopeful" by Bars and Melody
     
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    Bullying where I'm from is never anything straightforward. No getting shoved in lockers, now getting called faggot or cocksucker or whatever, it's something much more indirect and cowardly. You're reputation is everything, people won't talk shit to your face but once you turn your back they have alot to say. Basically I never kept any friends from school because I never trusted anyone.
     
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    Same.
     
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    I was bullied by people because I went to special school and now because I'm bisexual. I suppose I just have to put up with it
     
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    Bullying is usually something done online on social media. Usually includes slander and lies. And this isn't just about being gay, it can include religion or economic situations or whatever.

    Even people you think you know are friends probably talk behind your back. Sad really.

    Overt bullying is easy to spot. It's not eradicated but it's nothing like the football jock coming up and slamming the math team captain into the wall.

    If you see bullying, inform someone like a teacher or counselor. It is their job to handle it.
     
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    Bullied throughout elementary school.

    Alienated and made fun of on a regular basis in middle school.

    Almost free in High School
     
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    I never went through a school past 2nd grade. However, my nephew who is one year older then me used to bully me everyday. He would call me gay ALL THE TIME. He was right LOL. I got over it because now that we are older he still acts the same way. I'm just too mentally strong to care about what he thinks or says. And he is married and lives 2 hours away. At 20 he will never get to explore the world like I will.
     
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    I had my share of bullies...

    In elementary school, there were times I was afraid to go out for recess. I don't think I was ever attacked, but the fear was there.

    5th grade was a living hell, with several boys picking on me. Nothing physical, but lots of verbal abuse. It got so bad that the principal got involved. I remember him telling two of the boys at the end of the year that next year they'd be so nice to me that I'd think I'd died and gone to heaven. (One of the problem boys was also fairly popular. Both among the kids in class, but also often loved by the teacher. His grades were consistently very good.)

    The only physical incident was when were standing (Pledge of Allegiance, maybe?), and a boy by me somehow shoved my chair away. I didn't realize it, and sat down and crashed to the floor. The teacher saw what happened, and the other boy went straight to In School Suspension for the day. (That was very, very rare. Discipline was you break a rule, your name got written on the chalk board. Each rule after got a check mark, and each check mark carried some discipline, like losing 10 minutes of recess. It took 4 checks to get ISS. The fact that boy went from nothing on the board to "goodbye, we'll see you later!" was unusual.)

    Junior high also brought people who liked to pick on me. At least, I wasn't stuck with them in the same class all day. Again, mostly verbal, although one boy did walk beside me one day, then turn his rear towards me, and apparently farted in my direction. Not sure if that counts as bullying, though, but he sure wasn't doing it to show how much he liked me. :dry:

    8th grade & 9th grade brought a new set of bullies: some girls started picking on me. They'd try to surround me as I walked from class to class. Once stole a math book checked out to me. Stole more than one mechanical pencil that wasn't exactly cheap. And, worst of all, perhaps, got ahold of my home phone number, and started calling. My parents thought it was cute. Until a call came one morning at 2 AM. My mother later told me that my father answered the phone, and the girl asked where I was. He snapped something like: "He's in bed, asleep, like you should be." And hung up.

    10th grade on was mostly peaceful. The only clash I recall was 11th grade, when a 12th grader grabbed my chin while I was waiting in the hall for my math teacher to arrive and let us in. Ironically, he was the son of my 1st grade teacher, who'd preached loudly to my parents the importance of social development.
     
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    In grades 1-3 I was bullied so bad that I moved across the country to get away from it, but it followed but just not as bad. That carried on through to grade 10 when I had enough and broke a kids nose for pushing me around, after that it stopped for a while but it started back up a few weeks later and i got into a fight which left me with cuts, a black eye and and bruised knuckles him with a concussion and a fair amount of blood (from both of us) on the ground. After that fight no one picked on me again.

    Before people go saying that I did the wrong thing and I should have told a teacher/adult rather than resort to violence. I did, they did nothing and for years I put up with it and I began to believe that I was a freak and worthless. I spent countless nights wondering if I would finally get the courage to kill myself just so I could escape the torment of school. I don't regret what I did; not at all. The people who were supposed to help me sat by and did nothing, so I stood up for myself and put an end to it.
     
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    I got called gay, faggot, fag, or fairy at various times. Although I think part of it was just that it was a standard part of the Boy Insult Tool Kit.

    My father was shocked that "gay" was used even by 4th graders. Not sure about other kids--but I sure didn't know what it meant; all I knew was that it was an insult word.

    When a boy first asked "Are you a fairy?" I was quite puzzled. I thought he was asking if I was a ferry.
     
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    "Fight! Fight! Fight! Fight!"
     
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    The same sort of thing happened to me. I went to a different junior high than most kids in my elementary school. (I think I only saw one kid I knew at that junior high, and she was only there part of the year in 8th grade.) It was nice having a fresh start, of sorts, but...problems followed me. Mainly, I think, because I was fundamentally the same person. And a new supply of jerks saw me the way the old jerks did, and basically kept on.
     
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    I was bullied all my life, from my mother and family to the schools and streets iv been in and on, at home it was verbal and physical abuse, i'd get my head bashed against a wall if i so as much as looked at my mother, because in her eyes i looked like, to quote her, garbage, a monster or that boots or shoes are worth more than i am. and i'd get shoes or glass or anything thrown at me, one of the times she beat me to the point that i was scratching the walls with my own fingers, until they bled out of pain, while yelling for mercy, and that was when i was little, and it happened up until i grew up only then it was toned down.

    She had a habit of acting nice at certain times then flipping on me for any reason that she saw fit. there's more about her, but I'll move to schools. in schools iv had my head busted open, stabbed with a pen, had my food money taken and my books and bags taken or thrown into the garbage,i was thrown at walls,kicked,punched, sexually harassed by older or stronger kids, had them say that am nothing more than a reject and my parents shouldn't have had me along side other insults, had to deal with kids or people that brought knives, or sharp objects, threatening me with them if i didn't do what they asked, but i always ran away or tried to but not without getting cuts here and there.

    I've had people pretend to be my friends only to take my things and help out the bullies, so i grew up not trusting anyone and so i had and have no friends. it got to the point where i wish i could wear a mask, i can't even look at mirrors or reflective objects and i broke the mirror in my room. there's more but iv already said too much, sorry if it doesn't fit the topic, i thought it did but i don't know.
     
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    I received some bullying about my looks in the past. I was fortunate enough to deal with bullying very little, but the little I did experience still sucked - it scars me to this day.

    Honestly, bullying may be the one thing I hate most in this world. I just read an article about a boy from San Antonio committing suicide because of high school bullies; they bullied him because he wasn't popular and he was dating a 'queen bee' of the school - jealousy is an ugly trait. Kids are cruel and it's a shame anyone has to go through bullying.

    I wasn't out in high school so I didn't experience bullying about being LGBT+, but I'm sure I would have if I came out as gay then.
     
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    I was bullied a lot in elementary school. Mostly because of my name. People thought i was a "terrorist" or from "pakistan". Grade 5 was the worst. I pretty kuch got bullied hy whole class. I used to be very talkative, but now i just shut my mouth most of the time, because i'm afraid i'm being "annoying" or "stuck-up", because i know a lot of things. To make it worse i kinda sorta have a speech impediment, and sometimes people misunderstand me to say something i never said...some kids in grade 5 even called my the n word a couple of times... I don't think i've ever fully gotten over this, or ever will, because i still feel really uncomfortable in social situations, no matter what...
     
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    i was at boarding school. Bullying was part of the culture. Not just from the other pupils, but teachers as well. Sometimes it felt like the whole class were against me, there were the actual bullies then there were the rest who stood and watched, enjoying the torture.
    It was a 24 hour a day, seven days a week, twelve weeks at a time reality. It's still something that hurts me to this day. The pain still overcomes me.
     
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    I just started getting bullied this year. It started with something I don't want to talk too much about because it's really embarrassing, but without going into too much detail there was lots of unwelcome sexual stuff which she never got in trouble for. Things were temporarily going okay after that, as it was mostly just verbal for a while. After that though she realized she could get me to do whatever she wanted if she physically assaulted, so she switched to that approach. I was beat up 3 times before she stopped, and now she's back to verbal bullying. It sucks.
     
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    I haven't felt that I have been truly bullied but yeah I have been picked on one of them is my last name
     
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    I'm pretty sure my life would have been a living hell had I come out when I was in high school.

    There is a quote attributed to Rachel Madow: “The single best thing about coming out of the closet is that nobody can insult you by telling you what you've just told them.”

    There is truth in this; however, it overlooks what it would have been like in my high school. Going from suspician he's gay to knowing he's gay would have possibly been in my case the difference between insults and a trip to the emergency room.
     
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    Huh, i though boarding schools kids were nerds or sophisticated...