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At what age did you know you were bi

Discussion in 'Physical & Sexual Health' started by Feelunique, Dec 4, 2015.

  1. Feelunique

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    I've looked at different posts and many seem later in life than me. I knew at 4 that I found girls and boys both attractive. I hope not to weird forgive me if it is. Sorry. I've just always been equally atrracted towards both sexes.
     
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    As soon as I found out about the term bisexual, because I didn't really care what gender people was... It was probably when I was around 11.
    Though I found out about pansexual maybe two years ago so I have since changed to that...
     
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    I think I started to notice girls and boys in middle school but it didn't really click in my mind that I was bi until I think 15
     
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    I was 25.
     
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    I entertained the possibility when I was maybe 17 or so. By the time I was 20, I began to realize.
     
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    I think it was around like 8th grade? Like i know it was before i learned i was trans which was like junior year of highschool
     
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    I knew I wasn't straight when I discovered the Kinsey Scale when I was about 15. I secretly identified as bi and fought it tooth and nail for 11 years, until I realized I'm pretty much just gay (with one exception).
     
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    I've had feelings toward men my entire life, I just didn't have a word to describe them with until I was older.
     
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    After fighting myself for three years I figured it out at 15. I'm honestly still not quite to terms with it, but give me some time
     
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    I was 14 when I felt like I was bi. This was a superficial feeling, though. It didn't make me question my sexuality. I felt like, I think some girls are hot, and if I was horny enough, I could definitely have sex with one. It wasn't until 25 that I fell for a female romantically that I truly, truly felt bi -- even lesbian, and that shook my whole world up.

    4 is pretty young to know, I'd say. However, I just say that because I don't remember much from when I was 4. HOWEVER, I used to kiss a lot of my best girl friends growing up. Boys, too. But I remember getting in trouble all the time because I was always kissing girls in daycare. In the tree house, in a tent, outside behind a tree....yep. :slight_smile:
     
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    I knew I was different when I was between 5 and 7 and then I believed I was bisexual with a tendency towards girls around 10. It was between 10 and 12 that my attraction towards guys grew and my attraction towards girl all but vanished! :bang:
     
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    I realized it this year. Embarrassing, but true. I'm 43. In reflecting back, I know I shut down my attraction for girls in seventh grade. At the time, I don't think there were words in my world that allowed me to understand that bisexuality was a thing. Nor were there words for lesbian. I knew for sure, though, that liking someone of the same gender was not okay. For years and years and years, I've been an advocate for people who are queer. It was only recently I realized I was queer, myself.
     
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    This is really interesting. May I ask your opinion on why it took so long to come to light? Was it an overnight change or were you never really happy until you figure it out? Was it a particular experience that showed you the light?

    Sorry for all the questions but I've never had the opportunity to ask someone who didn't grow in to the sexuality at an early age :slight_smile:
     
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    Earlier in my life I had felt attracted to girls as soon as 5 years. Also like in the street I used to watch girls and thinking they were beautiful around 10-11-12. And even earlier to that I had thought that the term 'heterosexual' didn't really fit me. Also, I was never very femenine as a little girl so I had somewhat of a clue there.
    But at 13 I met a girl and had a crush on her for a long time and around that time I figured it out.
    But figuring out at 4 is fine. That probably means that you had no prejudices. Or that you just happened to meet very cute kids at kindergarten :lol:
     
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    I probably "knew" when I was fairly young. That being said, I didn't really entertain the possibility until middle school, and it took me to the beginning of highschool to fully realize and accept it.
     
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    I had a few baby crushes on boys;
    had random lesbian dreams about my close friends from 10;
    13 (year of sexual awakening) realised i could actually be aroused by guys in porn and scared as hell of ever looking at girls in porn but at the same time i was secretly admiring the beautiful girl who i had been sat next to in English class;
    13-15 went through a boy loving phase and made clear my fear of lesbians lol;
    15-16 had a little crush on a friend of mine who everyone thought way gay but never really admitted it to myself until she was gone;
    15-16 first acknowledged celebrity girl crush;
    16 got over my weird fear of lesbians;
    17 started to explore my sexuality, freaked out and cried while listening to cool fro the summer, joined EC, seriously decided when I developed a crush on a new friend I made.
     
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    I think that as a child I always thought of girls and boys the same way. I was very innocent back then, of course.
    I suppressed the idea until I was about 15 or so... Then I came to terms with who I were and decided no to deny it any longer.
     
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    I was in my early twenties when I put context around it. However, I knew in middle school (12/13 years old) that I wanted to kiss girls as much as I wanted to kiss boys - I just thought it was a typical female thing. I was overly sheltered and didn't really even know anything about homosexuality at that time, much less bisexuality. And recently looking back, I can see that I had a crush on my best girl friend when I was eight. So, while it took me awhile to find the context, it's obviously always been there.
     
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    I've never thought I was bi. I've never even questioned anything, really. I started thinking about romance when I was 4 and that's when I found out I was lesbian. I kept it a secret for the longest time. I just sat in my bed thinking about marrying my crush and when I turned 6 I started thinking about lesbian sex. When I first found out about the word gay I was, about, 8 and on this social site where this online friend of mine was saying, "SUPPORT GAYS, LESBIANS, BISEXUALS, AND TRANSGENDERS" and I asked my older brother what gay meant. He refused to tell me so I went to my mom and she told me it meant same-sex love. I've always hated my brother for that. For not telling me what gay means. He acted like there's something WRONG with it. I finally came out to my parents a year or two ago.
     
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    I've felt attracted to both male/female since I was a preteen, although it wasn't until I was about 20 that I accepted being bisexual
     
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