When did you get "the talk?"

My mum never gave me "the talk" and I never really expected it from her. She was always too busy doing other things to really manage my brother and I. Sure, I got that whole "sex ed" thing in school but part of me wishes there was more of it than that. It just never seemed like enough to me.

 

Mostly from the internet :lol:

My parents never talked to me about it, but I had to take SexEd near the end of elementary school, then again in highschool.

 

In school you had "the talk" when you were 9 or 10 (I vaguely remember a dodgy cartoon involving erections which I'm sure in hindsight my 9 year old self would have been utterly baffled by..."it does what?!"). And then again at about 11-13. For me a lot of it just went over my head, too young and oblivious for it to have any relevance.

But to others (the ones who were pregnant at 13) I'm sure it probably made a whole lot of sense, just they decided to do things their way!

 

I never got a proper talk.

I just remember my mom said it was okay to touch myself when I was too young to understand what she meant.

I mostly learned what I know from the internet and most of the contraceptive methods by the talks I had in school (I swear, that's the only things they talked about... How not to have kids bla bla bla... I know it's important, but I would think there are OTHER things that we might need to know?)

I don't think we should be ashamed to tell that kind of stuff to kids. Obviously, not 4 or 5 years old, but when you're 10, what's the deal? If people were not so ashamed of sex they wouldn't be so afraid to talk about it.

 

I was 10.

 

I got the talk from porn like most people of this generation. It's a bit messed up really. That my first observation of sex is unrealistic, idealistic sex that has very little emotional involvement. Porn is about dominating people and using people for cheap sexual desire. There is no deep emotional connections, just a quick wank.

 

Yeah but I suspect most of us realise that. I've never considered porn to be a realistic portrayal of sex. It's just something nice to watch occasionally.

 

Same.

 

It's hard for me to imagine what things are like for kids growing up with the Internet. I had some not-age appropriate reading material that I didn't really understand and my attempts to watch porn through the squiggly lines on cable and that was it for media exposure. Oh and the one time I found the adult video in my parents closet, but thinking about the fact they had been watching it kinda sucked the fun out of that one.

 

My mom is a single mom and gave me and my sister the talk when we were like five and six. She would bring it up every once in a while and gave as puberty books when we were about ten. We were pretty much like "Uh huh yeah mom we get it" because she would give us the talk often enough for us to be fed up with it. However, my sister and I weren't grossed out or anything, no one taught us or no one we knew treated it like a taboo so we didn't really have an opinion about it.

Fast forward and I wish I had actually read that puberty book, I didn't know my foreskin was supposed to be pulled back until I was like 16/17 and now I have frenulum breve -_-

 

I...don't remember ever getting "the talk". I know for a fact that it wasn't in any sort of sex ed class, because we don't have those (instead we get crash courses through health class, which was...literally a priest...and he didn't talk about sex, he talked about abstinence...and also divorce? Yay Missouri). I think maybe I had figured it out most of the way on my own and my mom maybe gave me a slight verification? I don't remember. I just suddenly knew.

Even with knowing about sex (and knowing that I don't really wanna participate in the act), I think there are still some things that I don't know, which is why I personally think sex ed classes are a good way to go when it comes to discussing this topic in development. While parents may be good for explaining the basics to a child, safe sex may be a topic better handled in a class. Though perhaps some parents will teach it well, I don't know. I'm just used to living in abstinence paradise.