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I feel like I'm hitting on my friend without wanting to.

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by iDunnodude, Nov 16, 2015.

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  1. iDunnodude

    iDunnodude
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    I, a girl, have this female friend who I find quite.. beautiful.
    In fact, I wouldn't even mind going all the way with her.
    She knows that I'm most likely not straight and want to try girls out and I think I've hinted that if she wants to try anything out, I can volunteer as tribute. (She's probably forgotten about that "hint" part, though.)

    What I don't like about this is that if anything would actually happen it'd probably feel like I'm just using her. Whether I'm sleeping with her for the sex (to figure out my orientation) or because I actually have feelings for her, it would feel like I'm taking advantage of her because I'd get what I wanted either way. I respect her too much for that to happen.

    I have my imaginary scenarios where we'd be alone and at least start kissing, maybe even go further, but it somehow doesn't feel right.

    Any thoughts or advice? :bang:
     
    #1 iDunnodude, Nov 16, 2015
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    Hello,

    Maybe if you do decide to do this, you could tell her before sex so that she can choose not to go through with it if she also feels it would be like taking advantage.

    Perhaps instead you could create imaginary characters for the imaginary scenarios, so it's not using a real person so there's no chance of an imaginary character finding out and maybe reacting badly.
     
    #2 Secrets5, Nov 16, 2015
  3. Ihavetojustbeme

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    do you know how she feels about girls in general? is she attracted to them (even a little bit)? :slight_smile:
     
    #3 Ihavetojustbeme, Nov 17, 2015
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    I would like to make that clear if that scenario would actually happen.

    And yeah, I'm trying to mainly have imaginary characters, people who look different from people I know, male or female.

    ---------- Post added 19th Nov 2015 at 10:38 AM ----------
    She's tried kissing a girl (a friend of hers) in the past before we met and she's said that she'd try sleeping with one at some point in the future, too.
     
    #4 iDunnodude, Nov 19, 2015
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    how do you feel about asking her how she feels? (*hug*)
     
    #5 Ihavetojustbeme, Nov 19, 2015
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    I think I'd be a bit too shy and awkward for that. :confused:
     
    #6 iDunnodude, Nov 21, 2015
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    A very easy way to define, whether your feelings have their basis true or they are simply an infatuation is to sniff her. If her body odour makes you a little aroused and it is pleasant, then you are in love. If not, then you are in a delusion.
     
    #7 Khorlidir, Nov 21, 2015
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