Getting HRT without parental permission

My parents are just being as difficult as possible. They won't have ANY part of my transition, and are forcing me to be as make as possible. I can't keep doing this. SOMEBODY in that house is going to have to break.

I've heard, in my conversations with friends, that I might be able to get HRT without their consent. Does anybody know how this might work? (I'm 17 and turn 18 in January, by the way, and I live in Colorado.)

 

I've thought about this, but one thing that worries me is that my mom said that just because I turn 18 don't think I'm getting a job. She's hell-bent on keeping me out of the workforce because in South Carolina, I used some of the money from my job to buy electronics and some to buy girl clothes. And according to her "my house my rules" policy, I can't get a job if she won't allow me. Is that even legally possible? That's something that worries me because I only have $200 in my account, and I know for sure that's not enough money to even make it from my birthday to college.

 

What she said exactly is, "you're not getting a job in this house". If I get a job, she told me she's going to go to the courthouse and get an eviction warrant.

 

The thing is, she's flat out not letting me get a job now. When I'm 18, she can't legally stop me. But she told me that once I'm 18 if I get a job then she'll evict me. This was immediately after I told her that if she won't help me get HRT then I'd wait until I was 18 then pay for it myself because I really didn't know how much longer I could stand being male with no progress forward.

In any case, last night she was telling me again that if I drag other people into this (she'd just found my account on another LGBT forum), then she'd evict me anyway because "she's not going to stand for this here".

And then she spent several hours crying in her room this morning. Over " bashing her" (ie saying things like she won't let me get a job to pay for HRT, what do I do; or she's just flat out screaming at me over wanting to get a new name how do I deal with this).

*sigh* It's like this every time. I can't be critical or ask others for help in dealing with them, or else I'm being horrible and "bashing them".

I don't know. I'm not sure which is worse: being homeless in winter in Colorado or dealing with them forcing me to be as " manly" as possible even though I've been diagnosed with MDD and they know my gender dysphoria is one of the factors. I mean, I love my parents but sometimes they can be sooo dense (yelling at me for being suicidal, for instance, and telling me I'm not allowed to get help for it).

 

I don't know. Her problem is my bringing her and my dad into it. Because, on this other site I explained about how she was being controlling and unsupportive. You know, stuff about how she wouldn't let me get help over depression (and actually laughed in my face saying "Depressed?!? I do everything for you! What right to do YOU have to be depressed?"), and about how my dad was saying stuff about how I'll never be a girl and the surgery doesn't take care of internal organs and stuff, and my mom always just exploded every time the subject of my new name came into question. Lately she's started getting mad enough over it that she's started swearing (when before when I got to that point she told me to get out, and if I ever dared say the f-word again in her presence she'd call the cops).

I know she's pushing my buttons. But that doesn't make me feel any better, none the less.

The thing is, I knew I was different from puberty. But being different was my biggest worry, because I thought that if I made it known that I wanted to be a girl I'd be ostracized just like Ben. It was awful. But finally when I was 17 my parents were trying to force me to show them my Facebook account (where, as a first step, I'd switched the pronouns and changed the gender). So I came out to them, and they don't agree because I didn't show any signs.

Which I didn't because of being afraid of being a social outcast.

So now, my parents change the channel whenever something LGBT comes up, they won't let me us any name but my birth name, they tell me that I can't wear any clothes but men's clothes, and basically force me to be as masculine as possible. They even tell me to change the way I walk.

I reeeaally don't want to make things between my parents and I more unpleasant than they already are, but I'm worried that I might have to. I CANNOT stay male for much longer. I just can't.

It doesn't help that they interfere to the point where I can't even practice my voice at home, or even shave my face too often.

 

I don't know. Her problem is my bringing her and my dad into it. Because, on this other site I explained about how she was being controlling and unsupportive. You know, stuff about how she wouldn't let me get help over depression (and actually laughed in my face saying "Depressed?!? I do everything for you! What right to do YOU have to be depressed?"), and about how my dad was saying stuff about how I'll never be a girl and the surgery doesn't take care of internal organs and stuff, and my mom always just exploded every time the subject of my new name came into question. Lately she's started getting mad enough over it that she's started swearing (when before when I got to that point she told me to get out, and if I ever dared say the f-word again in her presence she'd call the cops).

I know she's pushing my buttons. But that doesn't make me feel any better, none the less.

The thing is, I knew I was different from puberty. But being different was my biggest worry, because I thought that if I made it known that I wanted to be a girl I'd be ostracized just like Ben. It was awful. But finally when I was 17 my parents were trying to force me to show them my Facebook account (where, as a first step, I'd switched the pronouns and changed the gender). So I came out to them, and they don't agree because I didn't show any signs.

Which I didn't because of being afraid of being a social outcast.

So now, my parents change the channel whenever something LGBT comes up, they won't let me us any name but my birth name, they tell me that I can't wear any clothes but men's clothes, and basically force me to be as masculine as possible. They even tell me to change the way I walk.

I reeeaally don't want to make things between my parents and I more unpleasant than they already are, but I'm worried that I might have to. I CANNOT stay male for much longer. I just can't.

It doesn't help that they interfere to the point where I can't even practice my voice at home, or even shave my face too often.

 

Well, I just got done writing a letter to explain to my parents for I feel. Probably, she's just going to yell at me for being hateful (since in this letter I take a stand on my gender), but at least I tried.
If they can't accept it, though... I'm really not sure what's going to happen.

 

I gave the letter to my parents last night. It didn't work at all. My mom is going to throw me out at 18 if I get a job. My dad will do the same if I start my transition. And so in one sentence the basically crushed my biggest dream for what I could do in Colorado. I would have cried, except a while back I trained myself not to because of that "men don't show weakness" crap I was taught.
And then my dad told me I'm not transgender and that isn't even a thing.
I'm contacting my counselor and the school social worker.