How much does personality affect attraction?

Ikr. The thought of dating some people at first glance doesn't cross your mind then. but as you come to know them personally, you start getting attracted.
I consider both, a balance of some sort. Because its near impossible to date a guy or girl with a 9 on looks and a 2 on personality and vice versa.

 

One persons 10/10 personality is another's 4/10

And if the ego is bigger than they are, I'm outta there.

Everyone likes different things, and they are looking for different things in a relationship. So what one person finds a turnoff another may find a turnon

 

Yes. A bad personality can wreak havoc on your sanity and well being.

 

It's 50-50 for me.

 

What would be a 6/10 personality? :lol: One of my friend's dad said that if a woman is a bit naggy/bossy she better at least be pretty.

I had another friend tell me once... and this is so horrible.... He didn't really approve of the way a certain person treated her husband. "I don't like the way she treats him. She needs to be careful. She can't go around treating people like that. She's going to find herself alone because she's not that pretty'' I lol'd. He was being completely serious and genuine.

I would choose the personality. I have a feeling that my friend and my other friend's dad would choose the 9/10 looks :lol:

edit:

I kind of want to elaborate as to why I choose the personality.

A 6/10 personality, to me, means there's nothing special about you; you're not that smart, you're not that funny, you're not that sweet, you're not that witty... you're not that bad, but you you do not stimulate me any which way but physically. You're just kinda dull, but really nice to look at.

A 9/10 personality? Come on! That's someone smart, someone funny, someone who can make me laugh, make me think. An attitude and the way someone carries themselves; that's extremely important. Confidence. A 9/10 personality would have that. At least in my opinion.

 

For me, looks is one thing. But I definitely feel like personality is a bigger factor for me. For example my most recent (and current) crush was originally a 4/10 on the physical attractiveness and I didn't have a crush on her then. Then she got more physically attractive the more I talked to her and discovered her personality more. To me, she's a 10/10 on both physical attractiveness and personality now but others might see her as the 4/10 still.

I personally feel that while looks can be a good thing. I think more on the basis of personality for myself, maybe sub-consciously I'm thinking about looks more than I think, but consciously I'm thinking, wow, great personality.

 

A significant amount for me. I've seen enough boring attractive porn stars to be immune to that. It's all about the attitude, not just what you've got, but how you use it, that really counts

 

i agree.

 

I think it depends... if I start at almost no physical attraction, even if their personality is amazing, it will only raise it by so much...

If someone starts off in the negative numbers of attractiveness to my eyes, it's not going to happen, I'm sorry. Personality is the most important, but there needs to be some spark... even if it's not their looks, maybe their actions, mannerisms, laugh, etc... Almost everyone has something sexy about them, I think~

Of course, it also goes the same for personality... One of my favorite cuties, Tila Tequila~~ she's... not the brightest bulb, and... she's a bit moody, but I watched both seasons of A Shot at Love just for her! XD;;; Of course... then she dressed up like an SS soldier and said that Hitler had some good points... and... well, that ended that girl crush... T.T Why, Tila... why????

 

That show was hilarious

Hey girl heeeeyyyy! :lol:

 

The laws of attraction are complicated. How I see attraction is different to others. I can find someone physically unattractive but mentally attractive, while the person next to me can see that same person physically attractive, but mentally unattractive. So to say, no one is truly unattractive. I wanted to put that out there because I feel the stigma of being physically or mentally attractive is going too far. I don't want anyone on this thread or on this site to feel like they need to be a certain way to get someone to like them.

With that being said, personality does it all. But adapting to what I've said, just be yourself. There's no sense in changing who you are to impress someone, because you'll have to keep up with that if they decide to go out with you.. and it would be exhausting.

 

Then the 9/10 for personality, without doubt or hesitation. If I like the personality, their physical attractiveness will increase; if I like their looks but *dislike* the personality, their looks will only get worse as time goes on.

 

^This. I find attractiveness increases by association with character. Someone who is not automatically or conventionally attractive can go up in my estimation or even 'set the standard', by which I mean if I like someone enough I might find myself overlooking the attractiveness of others in favour of that individual's appearance. Likewise I have at times met those who would fit the standard definition of stunning, but within a few minutes of talking to them if it becomes clear they have an abhorrent personality, I'm not going to find looking at them pleasant. Even if they don't have a particularly bad character, if we just don't get along then I don't really see why I'd find them visually appealing for very long, they're not going to hold my attention just by looking a certain way.

 

yeah, of course. I've always found people with good personalities so much more attractive than people who don't/are good looking

 

I've had guys waaay better looking than I hit on me and have terrible personalities. Totally ruins it for me, and I usually turn them down.

 

I have had crushes on people that I didn't find physically attractive at all at first but as I got to know them better their physical attractiveness seemed to get better to me. I feel like for me personality affects how physically attractive I find them.

 

I wouldn't give a damn, I think. I'm not very high up on the attractiveness scale myself, and honestly speaking, my last crush was really quite low on the attractiveness scale, too. XD It's all about personality in a relationship for me-at first glance it'll be attractiveness, but in the long term, personality. Though of course, they can't be...that low on the attractiveness scale, too...someone I can stand to look at for long periods of time, though honestly, I think I'll just get used to it after a while.

 

Physical compatibility is an important factor to me, I'll just be totally honest here. If we can't work physically and there is no attraction on that level, it might cause some problems down the line. However, looks is sort of the icing on the cake rather than the deciding factor in stay or leave- personality and emotional attraction is really the main component behind it all, at least for me.

I feel like if I am really drawn to their personality, and we work really well together on that front, they will already be more attractive to me physically. Many factors come into play, and I think one person's physical attractiveness is not distinct and separate but actually in some ways connected to and influenced by their personality, and vice versa. For example, someone who I might not be that attracted to (or maybe I find them averagely good looking, but nothing more than that), might eventually become incredibly attractive in my eyes if we click very well in other areas.

On the other hand, I've come across a lot of people who are really easy on the eyes and good looking, but there is nothing else there and therefore they're not really that attractive to me. Maybe my eyes, but not an actual physical attraction. And with really good looking people who turn out to clash hugely with me personality-wise, although I can still see them as good looking, the physical attraction will probably be even more non-existent.

So I suppose to answer your question- Could you see yourself being with a person who has an amazing personality, but you don't find physically attractive? The answer is yes, in a way, because there is a good possibility that if they have an amazing personality, I'll already be attracted to them physically in some degree.
If I still don't feel anything physically for them, and that is possible, and there is no attraction there, it might be more difficult.
(That already is an incredibly subjective thing in my opinion. Two people re: the same person might feel completely differently; one may find them completely not attractive, and one might find them the most attractive person they've ever met, but physical compatibility, subjective or not, is important) We may just want to stay friends. However it is unlikely that I would feel nothing for them if they're already a brilliant match on the personality/emotional front.

EDIT: Adding to all that, on the flip side, the halo effect doesn't just apply to personality influencing another person's attractiveness. Could very well work the other way around- if you find someone very physically attractive, there's a good chance you'd see their personality in more of a glowing light than it objectively is. Slightly off tangent, but wanted to add that in.

Just my thoughts. Course, it is likely that there are exceptions to what I've said here, it is simply what I've observed over time.