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What does sexual attraction feel like (for someone who's never had sex?)

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  1. PositivelyMe

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    When I have a crush on someone, I think they're beautiful; I want to be around them, hang out with them, and just spend time with them all the time. However, I've never had sex-I don't tend to think about it when I'm crushing on someone, but the thought doesn't repulse me.

    What does sexual attraction feel like?
     
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    I think it's different with everyone. Too me it's wanting to be around them like attraction but more intense
     
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    It feels different for everyone, like happydavid said above.

    I'd say there's that pull/desire directed towards a specific person to want to be with them physically and sexually. There's that pull for their body in general and wanting to be intimate with them that way, rather than just admiring their looks passively. It almost feels like hunger, but not quite. There can also be arousal but that doesn't always go hand in hand, you can feel sexually attracted to someone without feeling constantly aroused by them, and you can feel arousal in certain situations without sexual attraction.
     
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    Hmm~ I think it depends on the level... some people you just see and are like, Ooh~ how sexy! but if you really connect with someone to point of wanting to be a part of them in that way... for me, it's a strong, hot, tingling in my chest, almost to the point where it gets hard to breathe~ and then it feels like my whole body might shatter into crystals... <3
     
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    For me, it's like I want to be all touchy and cuddly with the person and when they hug me or put their hand on my thigh or something, sometimes it kind of turns me on a bit. And I'd imagine myself making out with them and stuff, that kind of thing. But it depends on the person I guess. I mean, I've only really felt that way for one person.
     
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    I'm just going to be totally blunt and put this out there:

    I think about how much I want his dick in my mouth
     
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    I want to jump their bones and rip their clothes off!
     
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    I think its that person you want to spend all day with you don't care what your doing and sometimes you do things that you would never do on your own cause you just want to be with them.
    And when your not with that person all you can do is think about them what their doing how good they look should I call them.
    Sexual attraction doesn't have to be about technically having sex but the idea that that person is the one you would share yourself with and be perfectly happy.
     
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    lets say the feeling is almost like how i want to rip his clothes apart and explore every single inch of his body and experiment with it

    i guess that's the most less graphic way to say that
     
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    For me, its wanting to be all touchy and grabby.
     
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    As another kissless virgin, I would say it feels like this anxious tingling feeling in my chest and throughout my body, along with a desire to touch that person which is strong enough to drive me crazy >_<

    I don't really fantasize or unconsciously think about sex with that person, but it's pretty clear what kind of 'touch' it is that I'm desiring when I feel it :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes: