dreams vs reality

I have been having gay dreams (I'm a guy) for a few years now. Good question.

 

I've had gay dreams for as long as I've know about sex. Also had a few straight ones, but the straight ones were always bad, and something always interpreted the act within the dream so nothing ever came if the dream act.

 

Before I came out, I had the occasional dream with gay sex. The only time I can recall dreaming about straight sex was as a teenager, when my hormones were all over the place and when I experimented with straight sex. I am no dream expert, but my dreams proved true.

 

I had both, but most of my dreams that have involved men have not been particularly pleasant or consensual, my dreams with women have been consensual (even if some of them aren't pleasant due for other reasons unrelated to sex).

 

I think nearly all my dreams over the years that involved sex were with guys. In real life, I never had any problem responding when my ex-wife was interested in sex, and everything "worked", but it was always very clear that guys were my thing. Once things got dicey between us, I was less interested in sex with her because it felt dishonest, like there was no love in it anymore, and I also had fewer dreams that involved sex of any kind. Once I started coming out, they were back, though, and once again all guys.

 

I always turn down people in my dreams. I tell them I'm married. I know that sounds like a lie! But it's literally the only recurring dream type I have. It doesn't happen often but it does recur. Soon I guess I'll be turning down women in my dream and not just guys.

 

I had a dream once that I was marrying a guy, BUT I ran out of the wedding crying, so I think my orientation within the dream was still the same.

I also dreamt once that I was a prince who saved another prince from a tower. He was apparently in love with me, but it was unclear as to how I felt about him.

I've had several dreams about kissing girls, marrying girls, having sex with girls, cuddling girls, going on dates with girls, and checking out girls. Some of them have been sad, some of them have been romantic, some of them have been arousing, and some of them have been totally hilarious. :lol: I have an old blog post about some of them: http://emptyclosets.com/forum/blogs/yuricore/10775-my-dreams.html

 

What the H?! All my dreams are about losing my teeth or flying mini-hippopotamuses. No fair.

 

That sounds like an awesome dream to me. :lol:

Hm, I have a lot of dreams about losing my teeth too...

 

I don't think you can put much stock in dreams. That being said I do have dreams of being intimate with women and men. We all have a multitude of emotions and meanings attached to sex. Dreaming about it may be triggered by one or more of those threads.

 

in many of my dreams I am a mermaid, and I can breathe underwater.

 

Ohmygosh I was always dreaming that. For years.

Then either I hit my sexual peak in 30's, or i met this girl that changed my life, or I learned how to get to the "O" or probably a combination of all three, and now I can actually get as far as kissing and sometimes 2nd base in a dream. Maybe if I keep this up I can get a home run and actually wake up and remember it...

 

Yes and no. Dreams are not necessarily an indicator of what is on one's mind in a literal fashion. However, with regard to sex it is typically fairly literal. If you have gay sex in a dream, chances are it could potentially cross your mind at some point during waking life. If it happens frequently, there is a good chance you are not straight or in your case not a lesbian. If you typically have sex with other women in the dream then you are probably still mainly or even fully a lesbian.

 

lately i have been having trans or hermaphrodite dreams, and just had another one last night. I almost got to 3rd base but then woke up.

 

In a lucid dream you will tend to do whatever you really want to do IRL. I'm guessing it does tell you about yourself. Dream interpretation is some really far out stuff.

 

Dreams are supposedly about our brains solving problems from our waking lives while we are asleep. So whatever you're going through and relationships you're in will be reflected in your dreams. Over the course of my life, I've dreamed about sex with men and women, not after coming out its only women. I have noticed that when dreaming.
But really most of my dreams are very strange and deal more with causes of everyday stress in my life rather than anything else anymore.

 

I've always used my dreams to figure out who I have crushes on and all that. I haven't had a straight dream in so long. I guess it depends on the person.